3 Months ago, I've lost a Friend in a car accident too. Well he was not really a friend, we used to hang alot though.
Dealing with death of a Person you know may bring alot of People down, I deal with it good since I lost few loved ones and few I cared for.
Helping someone to get over a Death is in most cases hard job to do, most people tend to feel guilty.
If she for what ever reason should feel guilty, you need turn her Thoughts into a more happier way.
Tell her that by crying out from him/her doesn't help, she should try to keep all good memories about that Person and try to remind others who also knew him/her of /his/her past existance, and that they now always have a friend who will listen to them.
She can show respect for the dead, by visiting their graves and so much more.
There is always a good Reason why someone dies. (Personal Expirience, sadly the knowledge comes with time)
Ask here what that same Friend would do, or how s/he would feel to see her that broken.
In the honor of the dead, she should live her life with the good memories of them, not with the occurence wich killed them.
That's just what I think, I never needed help nor I helped someone.
I accepted death a long time ago, someone dies sooner, someone later, in the end they all still remain embeded within our own Soul.
It was an accident, the only possible person to blam are the drivers of the cars, and no one else, and getting mad at someone because s/he lived and your friend didn't, makes no sense and will not bring them back.
Still if you can bend your activities to be near her, and there for her, you can try to focus activities you 2 do to something happier.
(idk for me the person is dead and that's it, I visit the grave and think of the good moments with them, nothing is stopping me to have that with another person....... who might die too .... get over it) (sorry)
Dealing with death of a Person you know may bring alot of People down, I deal with it good since I lost few loved ones and few I cared for.
Helping someone to get over a Death is in most cases hard job to do, most people tend to feel guilty.
If she for what ever reason should feel guilty, you need turn her Thoughts into a more happier way.
Tell her that by crying out from him/her doesn't help, she should try to keep all good memories about that Person and try to remind others who also knew him/her of /his/her past existance, and that they now always have a friend who will listen to them.
She can show respect for the dead, by visiting their graves and so much more.
There is always a good Reason why someone dies. (Personal Expirience, sadly the knowledge comes with time)
Ask here what that same Friend would do, or how s/he would feel to see her that broken.
In the honor of the dead, she should live her life with the good memories of them, not with the occurence wich killed them.
That's just what I think, I never needed help nor I helped someone.
I accepted death a long time ago, someone dies sooner, someone later, in the end they all still remain embeded within our own Soul.
It was an accident, the only possible person to blam are the drivers of the cars, and no one else, and getting mad at someone because s/he lived and your friend didn't, makes no sense and will not bring them back.
Still if you can bend your activities to be near her, and there for her, you can try to focus activities you 2 do to something happier.
(idk for me the person is dead and that's it, I visit the grave and think of the good moments with them, nothing is stopping me to have that with another person....... who might die too .... get over it) (sorry)
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