06-07-2015, 09:26 AM
Thank you for reaching out, Suffering!
You've been through some emotional trauma, to be sure. Abusive situations can effect you on a subconscious level. Your mind felt unsafe in the situation, so now it is doing all it can to keep you feeling safe now. Whenever it detects something similar to any perceived threat in the past, it sounds an alert and leads you into a state of fight-or-flight.
How you are now is okay. You probably don't believe that, but you have always been doing the best with the tools you have. There are tools you can learn, to help you even further. Here is a post I wrote for BlogHER, that might help: http://www.blogher.com/understanding-and...umb=171493 .
Hang in there, and keep us posted!
Bethany
http://onlinetherapyandcoaching.org
You've been through some emotional trauma, to be sure. Abusive situations can effect you on a subconscious level. Your mind felt unsafe in the situation, so now it is doing all it can to keep you feeling safe now. Whenever it detects something similar to any perceived threat in the past, it sounds an alert and leads you into a state of fight-or-flight.
How you are now is okay. You probably don't believe that, but you have always been doing the best with the tools you have. There are tools you can learn, to help you even further. Here is a post I wrote for BlogHER, that might help: http://www.blogher.com/understanding-and...umb=171493 .
Hang in there, and keep us posted!
Bethany
http://onlinetherapyandcoaching.org