First of all, it seems to me as you are a homosexual. You may not like to here it but the fact that you're sexually attracted to men, but only emotionally attracted to women suggests this for me. You here it all the time where a women's best friend is a gay friend, this could possibly be partly responsible. To be honest, I think you need to sit down in a dark room, close your eyes and have a PROPER deep thought about this situation, figure out what you truly think you are. Forget the fact that you don't want to be homosexual just think about what you are, not what you want to be. If the end result comes as you are homosexual, it's nothing to worry about. I actually heard on TV/News the other day that the popularity of homosexuals is growing more and more every year, it's not how it was 50 years back. Being a Homosexual is far more excepted in today's world then it ever has been, sure there's still that arrogant few who can't grasp the fact that there's people like this and will tease you for it, but so what?
I actually have a friend who's extremely gay, I mean he'd shout it from the room tops if he could. He's extremely open about his sexuality and me and him joke around all the time, he constantly asks me for pictures if you get what I mean but I know he's only joking so we just laugh about it. It's quite weird when he talks abut his past relationships though, he goes into excruciating detail, lol. What I'm trying to say is just because you here people slagging off "gays" doesn't mean that they don't except it. I joke around calling him a "jerk" etc and he doesn't care, because he knows I'm joking. Let me know if you wish to talk further, even if off-site.
For your second issue, I've also had a friend who's like that. He's extremely shy and doesn't open up to people. (the complete opposite of the guy I mentioned above). He always used to bottle things up, and only ever talked to me via IM clients like MSN and AIM, but after a while we got talking and he ended up telling me pretty much everything about his life, I'm sure he kept a few things secret, but there has to be a reason for that. So with your friend, just give it time. Don't pressure him into opening up to you as that could seal him off all together, instead just be there for him when he needs you, and you'll start to realize him opening up gradually, it's a trust thing. Some people see online "friends" as still "strangers" even if just subconsciously, it's a mind thing. You have to earn their trust, and that takes time. The fact that he's already shown you pictures of himself, suggests to me you're already on the right track.
I actually have a friend who's extremely gay, I mean he'd shout it from the room tops if he could. He's extremely open about his sexuality and me and him joke around all the time, he constantly asks me for pictures if you get what I mean but I know he's only joking so we just laugh about it. It's quite weird when he talks abut his past relationships though, he goes into excruciating detail, lol. What I'm trying to say is just because you here people slagging off "gays" doesn't mean that they don't except it. I joke around calling him a "jerk" etc and he doesn't care, because he knows I'm joking. Let me know if you wish to talk further, even if off-site.
For your second issue, I've also had a friend who's like that. He's extremely shy and doesn't open up to people. (the complete opposite of the guy I mentioned above). He always used to bottle things up, and only ever talked to me via IM clients like MSN and AIM, but after a while we got talking and he ended up telling me pretty much everything about his life, I'm sure he kept a few things secret, but there has to be a reason for that. So with your friend, just give it time. Don't pressure him into opening up to you as that could seal him off all together, instead just be there for him when he needs you, and you'll start to realize him opening up gradually, it's a trust thing. Some people see online "friends" as still "strangers" even if just subconsciously, it's a mind thing. You have to earn their trust, and that takes time. The fact that he's already shown you pictures of himself, suggests to me you're already on the right track.