02-05-2012, 01:53 AM
Okay, before you mentally degrade him to be a bad person, realize a few things though.
1) Drinking can be a very serious and uncontrollable issue for some people
2) He probably didn't want to crash on purpose, that's just a result of his drinking problem
You guys need to realize that he probably still cares for his family, but when you're drinking you can probably imagine that he can't put things into perspective to word things out the way that you want to hear them.
Help him with his drinking problem. If you were in his shoes, with an uncontrollable drinking problem, and you got into a crash, but you still loved your family, would you not feel guilt? upset? Perhaps that you want to show them that you still care, but don't know how to put it into words because you may feel that there's no excuse for drinking if you have such a problem?
Now that he's in the hospital, I can imagine he's trying to think things out, and maybe he's starting to piece things together finally, since they won't allow him to have alchohol there. That time in the hospital would have allowed him lots of time to think about his situation, and i'm sure the reason he phoned you is because he cares.
Based on what i've told you, i'm sure you can figure out how you should feel on your own, nobody in this thread can tell you how you are supposed to feel.
1) Drinking can be a very serious and uncontrollable issue for some people
2) He probably didn't want to crash on purpose, that's just a result of his drinking problem
You guys need to realize that he probably still cares for his family, but when you're drinking you can probably imagine that he can't put things into perspective to word things out the way that you want to hear them.
Help him with his drinking problem. If you were in his shoes, with an uncontrollable drinking problem, and you got into a crash, but you still loved your family, would you not feel guilt? upset? Perhaps that you want to show them that you still care, but don't know how to put it into words because you may feel that there's no excuse for drinking if you have such a problem?
Now that he's in the hospital, I can imagine he's trying to think things out, and maybe he's starting to piece things together finally, since they won't allow him to have alchohol there. That time in the hospital would have allowed him lots of time to think about his situation, and i'm sure the reason he phoned you is because he cares.
Based on what i've told you, i'm sure you can figure out how you should feel on your own, nobody in this thread can tell you how you are supposed to feel.