08-01-2011, 10:53 AM
If you really loved your brother then you should not feel ashamed at all to visit his grave or even shed tears. Remember him, but don't let the grief ruin your life. Your brother's life was taken but you still have yours. I'm sure he would want you to remember him but also live your life. I don't know your brother, but I'm sure he wouldn't want to see you get too worked up. Visit his grave when you feel the need or whenever you feel like it. If you have any more problems, please feel free to vent them here. Best of luck and I hope you feel better soon enough! 