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About my brother... - Vexna - 08-01-2011
Hello, I lost my brother since 1 year now...
I did not go to his grave since 6 months, I will not cry, I do not want my brother be ashamed of me, my reaction is normal or should I cry and let go of what I have on the heart?
RE: About my brother... - Caffeine - 08-01-2011
My belief is that it is okay to show your emotion. I did not know your brother, but I do not think he will be ashamed.
RE: About my brother... - Vexna - 08-01-2011
You are probably right... I rarely talk about this subject, strange feel
RE: About my brother... - Kye - 08-01-2011
It seems like you are just bottling it all up, that can be very unhealthy. My advice would be
to visit his grave and pay your respects, let out a tear even. Then just try to live your life the
best you can because now you understand how easily it can be taken away.
I am very sorry for you loss, especially someone as close as a brother.
RE: About my brother... - Vexna - 08-01-2011
You are right, but the loss of my brother who has caused enormous wounds continues to grow ... These wounds don't heal, my friends told me to talk to a psychiatrist, I always say "no" and when I saw this category and I saiy "why not", your comments go straight to my heart.
RE: About my brother... - BreShiE - 08-01-2011
Hello Vexna,
It's hard to lose a loved one, I'm sorry for you. I think you should express your emotion, it's always better to show your feelings then to build it up inside of you, as that can lead to so many problems. I think you should also visit his grave now and again if you feel comfortable doing so, but just remember he will always have a space in your heart, no matter where he is.
I myself have not had the feelings of losing a family member yet, and I'm sure it's horrible. I hope everything gets well.
RE: About my brother... - Vexna - 08-01-2011
Yes, it is very hard, we were very complicit, I think I do not have enough courrage to visit his grave...
Thank's alot
RE: About my brother... - BreShiE - 08-01-2011
(08-01-2011, 09:16 AM)Vexna Wrote: Yes, it is very hard, we were very complicit, I think I do not have enough courrage to visit his grave...
Thank's alot
I see, if you don't currently have the courage to visit his grave, then just wait for a while, your feelings are soon to change.
But also as the previous post said, building up emotions is very unhealthy and could lead to many problems; such as mental problems.
Also it could just build up and come come out in random outbursts of anger, I hope I helped in this matter and I wish you luck!
RE: About my brother... - morchid - 08-01-2011
How old was your brother when he died
RE: About my brother... - Mayhem - 08-01-2011
If you really loved your brother then you should not feel ashamed at all to visit his grave or even shed tears. Remember him, but don't let the grief ruin your life. Your brother's life was taken but you still have yours. I'm sure he would want you to remember him but also live your life. I don't know your brother, but I'm sure he wouldn't want to see you get too worked up. Visit his grave when you feel the need or whenever you feel like it. If you have any more problems, please feel free to vent them here. Best of luck and I hope you feel better soon enough!
