11-04-2010, 06:29 PM
Hello Solidify,
I took the time to read through it all, and this seems like a problem that can easily tarnish your entire family. What your grandmother went through was obviously something extremely tough for anybody to cope with, so the side effects she is experiencing could only be natural because of emotional distress, and her overall age. It's really hard for me to offer any advice for such a complex situation. The only real thing I can advise is to try to speak with your mother. Based on what I read, it seems you truly do have good insight on what's going on. Try to sit down with your mother and explain things. Let her know that the way she may be abusing her, (whether intentional or unintentional), will not fix things. I am sure you both love your grandmother very much, and only want the best for her as she is practically at the end of her life. Just do your best to try to give your input, and it will hopefully help de-stress your mother.
It was very kind of you to take care of your grandmother that day. Although it is not an easy task, maybe you could let your mother know that you will try to take care of her like that more often? The more you keep your grandmother out of your mother's hair, the less stressed she may become. With that being said, I am not suggesting you put your life on hold in order to take care of your grandmother full-time. Just a couple extra hours a week may make all the difference. You never know, unless you try.
I am sorry to hear about the situation you are in, and I am even more sorry for not being able to provide sufficient advice. I did the best I could in order to assist you in solving your problem. Please give us all another update soon, as more information may eventually lead to a member supplying advice good enough to effect your current cirxumstances in a positive way. It was very brave of you to share all of this, and I commend you for it. I really hope you can somehow assist both your mother and your grandmother with their current issues.
All The Best,
Virtual Reality
I took the time to read through it all, and this seems like a problem that can easily tarnish your entire family. What your grandmother went through was obviously something extremely tough for anybody to cope with, so the side effects she is experiencing could only be natural because of emotional distress, and her overall age. It's really hard for me to offer any advice for such a complex situation. The only real thing I can advise is to try to speak with your mother. Based on what I read, it seems you truly do have good insight on what's going on. Try to sit down with your mother and explain things. Let her know that the way she may be abusing her, (whether intentional or unintentional), will not fix things. I am sure you both love your grandmother very much, and only want the best for her as she is practically at the end of her life. Just do your best to try to give your input, and it will hopefully help de-stress your mother.
It was very kind of you to take care of your grandmother that day. Although it is not an easy task, maybe you could let your mother know that you will try to take care of her like that more often? The more you keep your grandmother out of your mother's hair, the less stressed she may become. With that being said, I am not suggesting you put your life on hold in order to take care of your grandmother full-time. Just a couple extra hours a week may make all the difference. You never know, unless you try.
I am sorry to hear about the situation you are in, and I am even more sorry for not being able to provide sufficient advice. I did the best I could in order to assist you in solving your problem. Please give us all another update soon, as more information may eventually lead to a member supplying advice good enough to effect your current cirxumstances in a positive way. It was very brave of you to share all of this, and I commend you for it. I really hope you can somehow assist both your mother and your grandmother with their current issues.
All The Best,
Virtual Reality