I’m overwhelmed by birthday plans this year and just want to hide

Usually, I get pretty excited about my birthday, but this year it’s turning into a source of stress. My family wants to do a big dinner with extended relatives, my friends are planning a surprise party, and my coworkers are organizing something at the office. I’ve tried telling everyone I just want a quiet evening, but somehow the plans keep growing. On top of that, I’ve been juggling extra projects at work and just don’t have the energy to be ‘on’ for all these events. I’m feeling anxious and kind of trapped, like I can’t say no without disappointing people. Has anyone else dealt with this kind of social overwhelm around their birthday? How did you navigate wanting to keep things low-key without hurting others’ feelings? I’m looking for ways to gently set boundaries but also keep the peace. What’s the best way to communicate that I need space without coming across as rude or ungrateful?