My 9-year-old insists on organizing family chores with a strict chart — it’s causing tension

My 9-year-old has recently taken it upon themselves to create a detailed chore chart for the whole family, complete with assigned tasks and deadlines. While I appreciate their enthusiasm and leadership, it’s starting to create tension because they get really frustrated when others don’t follow the schedule exactly. We’ve tried explaining that flexibility is important and that sometimes plans have to change, but they struggle to relax the rules. It’s making family time feel a bit rigid and stressful instead of fun and cooperative.

We’re also on a budget, so we can’t hire outside help, and my partner and I both work full-time, so chores need to be manageable. I don’t want to squash my kid’s initiative, but I also want to keep the home environment calm and positive.

Has anyone dealt with a kid who takes responsibility a little too seriously? How did you help them balance structure with flexibility? Any ideas for keeping chore systems effective but low-pressure?