feelin kinda peeved and needed to vent, i hope thats alright here. rudeness warning, incoming rant lol.

just so sick and tired of being the human equivalent of a doormat. seems like the more i put myself out there, the more i get ignored. anyone else have this issue? feels like people just see right over my head sometimes. they smile at you, say the right things, but it doesnt feel like theyre actually acknowledging you, much less seeing you.

it happened again just earlier today, hanging out with some friends. they wanted to plan a weekend getaway. asked everyone for thoughts, feedback, ideas. so, i suggested this cool little cabin in the woods i’d seen online. had a homey vibe, wasnt too expensive, and i bet could do us all some good to disconnect from this crazy online world for a bit, yknow?

and, you guessed it, my idea was pretty much blatantly ignored. they were all busy discussing this vineyard which, in my opinion, was kind of a snooty choice. not to mention it was super expensive! im in a tight spot financially and was hoping we could find something that was fun but affordable.

but they all seemed so jazzed about the wine tasting and the fancy stuff that they just completely brushed aside my idea. no one said, “hey, thats a great idea” or even “nah, not feeling that”. just…silence 🤔

Man, I totally get where you’re coming from. Been there, done that. It’s tough feeling like you’re being overlooked in your own friend group. But keep in mind, you got good ideas. That cabin sounds great to me! Maybe they were too caught up with the whole vineyard thing to realize your idea was a damn good one. Next time, be a bit more assertive. And hey, ain’t nothing wrong discussing the budget stuff. We all got different financial situations and that’s okay, it should be considered. Just remember, you’re valid, your ideas are valid, and don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise.

You’ve hit the nail on the head bud. We all need a reminder that our voices count too, especially among friends. The cabin idea sounds super chill and honestly, sounds like more fun to me (I’m outdoorsy what can I say). Yeah next time, stand your ground a bit more on your ideas. Don’t let that vineyard just overshadow the cozy vibe a cabin could bring. And you’re right about the budget stuff, it needs to be discussed openly. We all got our own money situations, no need to feel weird about it. Always remember, you’re pretty damn awesome and your ideas are too.

Totally agree with you here. It’s really crucial to put in your two cents without fear of overshadowing. Plus, I reckon, a cabin has just the right balance of simplicity and joy, a definite win-win. Talking about budget, I had a similar situation where speaking up really relieved the unnecessary stress for everyone, so you’re bang on mate. We gotta normalize discussing money situations, really. And hey, there’s nothing more enjoyable than an idea you’re excited about. You’re doing great, keep it up!

Yep, you’ve hit the nail on the head there. Grappling with finances ain’t always the most comfortable chat but it’s gotta be done. Take it from someone who’s learned the hard way! A bit of honesty can help take that edge off. I remember a trip with friends when we all were tight-lipped about our budget limits. Disaster! Chaos ensued and boy, did we learn a lesson. And about the cabin, it’s always felt like the perfect cozy haven, doesn’t it? A balance of simplicity, indeed. Keep the spirit up and do what you enjoy, mate! Life’s too short for anything else.