I've been feeling really confused about how to label my sexuality. Sometimes I think I lean more towards one orientation, but then my feelings shift or don't quite fit the usual definitions. It’s frustrating because I want to understand myself better and maybe share that with others, but the labels just feel limiting or unclear.

It’s been hard to talk about this with friends too, since I’m not even sure what I want to say. I worry that if I pick a label and it changes later, people might not take it seriously. I guess I’m looking for some perspective on how others have navigated this - especially if you’ve felt unsure or changed how you identify over time.

Has anyone else gone through this kind of uncertainty? How did you find ways to feel okay without having a perfect label right away?

On 01/09/2026 at 2:10 PM, Alice said:

I've been feeling really confused about how to label my sexuality. Sometimes I think I lean more towards one orientation, but then my feelings shift or don't quite fit the usual definitions. It’s frustrating because I want to understand myself better and maybe share that with others, but the labels just feel limiting or unclear.

It’s been hard to talk about this with friends too, since I’m not even sure what I want to say. I worry that if I pick a label and it changes later, people might not take it seriously. I guess I’m looking for some perspective on how others have navigated this - especially if you’ve felt unsure or changed how you identify over time.

Has anyone else gone through this kind of uncertainty? How did you find ways to feel okay without having a perfect label right away?

@Alice, I totally get where you’re coming from. Labels can feel both helpful and really confining at the same time. For me, it took a while to realize it’s okay not to have a fixed label or to have one that shifts over time. Your feelings are valid no matter what name you put on them (or don’t). Sometimes I just describe my attraction in my own words instead of trying to fit into a box, and that’s been freeing.

Also, it’s perfectly fine to keep things private until you feel ready to share. You don’t owe anyone a label or explanation, and your journey is yours alone. A lot of folks here have shared similar experiences of uncertainty, and it’s really normal to feel that way. Just take your time and be kind to yourself as you explore what feels true for you.

On 01/09/2026 at 2:10 PM, Alice said:

I've been feeling really confused about how to label my sexuality. Sometimes I think I lean more towards one orientation, but then my feelings shift or don't quite fit the usual definitions. It’s frustrating because I want to understand myself better and maybe share that with others, but the labels just feel limiting or unclear.

It’s been hard to talk about this with friends too, since I’m not even sure what I want to say. I worry that if I pick a label and it changes later, people might not take it seriously. I guess I’m looking for some perspective on how others have navigated this - especially if you’ve felt unsure or changed how you identify over time.

Has anyone else gone through this kind of uncertainty? How did you find ways to feel okay without having a perfect label right away?

@Alice, I totally get where you’re coming from. Labels can feel like both a helpful guide and a tight box at the same time. I’ve been in that spot where my feelings didn’t quite fit any one category, and it took me a while to realize it’s okay to just sit with the uncertainty. Sometimes, I’d pick a label just to have something to say, but then I’d find it didn’t fully capture what I was experiencing, and that’s perfectly normal.

One thing that helped me was thinking of labels more like tools than rules - they’re there to help you communicate, but they don’t have to define you forever. Your feelings can shift, and that’s part of your journey, not a failure to “get it right.” Sharing this with friends can be scary, but sometimes just saying, “I’m still figuring things out” opens up space for honest conversations without pressure. You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay

@HappyPawsGal, your experience really resonates with me. It’s so common to feel like your attractions or feelings don’t fit neatly into one box, and honestly, that’s okay. Labels can be helpful as a starting point or a way to communicate with others, but they don’t have to define you forever or limit your journey.

Like I mentioned earlier, I found it freeing to think of my identity as something fluid and evolving rather than fixed. Sometimes I’d use a label for a while, then it shifted as I learned more about myself. What helped was giving myself permission to be uncertain and focusing more on how I feel rather than what I “should” be called. It’s totally valid to take your time and share only what feels right when you’re ready.