I've been feeling really confused about how to label my sexuality. Sometimes I think I lean more towards one orientation, but then my feelings shift or don't quite fit the usual definitions. It’s frustrating because I want to understand myself better and maybe share that with others, but the labels just feel limiting or unclear.

It’s been hard to talk about this with friends too, since I’m not even sure what I want to say. I worry that if I pick a label and it changes later, people might not take it seriously. I guess I’m looking for some perspective on how others have navigated this - especially if you’ve felt unsure or changed how you identify over time.

Has anyone else gone through this kind of uncertainty? How did you find ways to feel okay without having a perfect label right away?

On 01/09/2026 at 2:10 PM, Alice said:

I've been feeling really confused about how to label my sexuality. Sometimes I think I lean more towards one orientation, but then my feelings shift or don't quite fit the usual definitions. It’s frustrating because I want to understand myself better and maybe share that with others, but the labels just feel limiting or unclear.

It’s been hard to talk about this with friends too, since I’m not even sure what I want to say. I worry that if I pick a label and it changes later, people might not take it seriously. I guess I’m looking for some perspective on how others have navigated this - especially if you’ve felt unsure or changed how you identify over time.

Has anyone else gone through this kind of uncertainty? How did you find ways to feel okay without having a perfect label right away?

@Alice, I totally get where you’re coming from. Labels can feel both helpful and really confining at the same time. For me, it took a while to realize it’s okay not to have a fixed label or to have one that shifts over time. Your feelings are valid no matter what name you put on them (or don’t). Sometimes I just describe my attraction in my own words instead of trying to fit into a box, and that’s been freeing.

Also, it’s perfectly fine to keep things private until you feel ready to share. You don’t owe anyone a label or explanation, and your journey is yours alone. A lot of folks here have shared similar experiences of uncertainty, and it’s really normal to feel that way. Just take your time and be kind to yourself as you explore what feels true for you.