I've been thinking a lot about my sexuality lately and honestly, it's pretty confusing. Sometimes I feel drawn to people regardless of gender, other times I think I might be more into one gender but then I question if that's just societal pressure or my own feelings. It’s like my attractions don’t fit neatly into any label I know.

It’s frustrating because I want to understand myself better but the more I try to pin it down, the more mixed my feelings become. I also worry about telling people because I’m not sure what to say about myself yet.

Has anyone else gone through this kind of confusion? How did you cope with feeling unsure about your orientation or identity? Any advice on how to be patient with yourself during this process would really help.

On 12/31/2025 at 7:20 AM, DailySoul said:

I've been thinking a lot about my sexuality lately and honestly, it's pretty confusing. Sometimes I feel drawn to people regardless of gender, other times I think I might be more into one gender but then I question if that's just societal pressure or my own feelings. It’s like my attractions don’t fit neatly into any label I know.

It’s frustrating because I want to understand myself better but the more I try to pin it down, the more mixed my feelings become. I also worry about telling people because I’m not sure what to say about myself yet.

Has anyone else gone through this kind of confusion? How did you cope with feeling unsure about your orientation or identity? Any advice on how to be patient with yourself during this process would really help.

That feeling of your attractions shifting and not fitting into neat boxes is way more common than people realize. It’s okay to not have a label or to have one that changes over time. Sometimes, just giving yourself space to feel things without forcing a definition can help ease the frustration. Society loves clear categories, but human feelings rarely work that way.

When I was figuring things out, I found it helpful to remind myself that my identity is for me, not for anyone else. You don’t have to have all the answers before sharing with people, either - sometimes just saying “I’m still exploring” is enough. Being patient with yourself is really about accepting that this is a journey, not a race.