Okay guys, so here’s the thing. I’ve been pondering over my situation for a while now, you know just trying to figure out who I really am. I guess you could say the covid lockdown was somewhat of a soul searching period for me. It’s only now that I feel comfortable enough to reach out about it.

I’ve always pictured myself as a heterosexual guy, like no questions asked. Yet, lately I’m not so sure. I find myself drawn to guys as well as girls, it’s pretty disorientating. Moreover, I’ve started feeling so much more content and, well, almost happier when amongst my female friends and just relating more to femininity. It’s been quite a confusing whirlwind, y’know?

It’s all pretty new and scary to me. Like, I feel boxed in due to societal norms and stereotypes even though people keep saying it’s 2021 and everyone’s so accepting. The problem is, I’ve always been afraid of labels. Now, I’m teetering on the edge of self-discovery and I’m actually terrified. Just the thought of being anything other than what I’m used to scares me, even if that’s who I really am.

I could really use some advice from people who have been down this path before, or just listen to the experiences of those who’ve been in similar situations. Like, how did you comes to terms with your 🤔

hey buddy, i hear you and just wanted to say that it’s completely normal to feel scared and confused during times like these. i’ve been there myself and honestly, it’s like navigating through a forest without a compass. but remember, this is your journey. some days it’ll feel like you’re walking in circles, others you’ll cover a lot of ground. It’s very personal and unique to you. you don’t have to rush. take your time and don’t stress about labeling yourself. learning about our own sexuality and gender identity can be a lifelong process for some of us. and yeah, it is 2021 (it’s crazy how time flies!), but societal pressures still exist. they can feel like barriers, but they’re not walls. reach out to supportive communities, lean on friends that get it and remember there’s help out there if you need it. you got this!

Totally agree here - feeling lost is normal. It’s like you’re on a long road trip with no map. Stumbling, backtracking, even not moving - it’s all okay. It’s 2021, you’d think we’d be more accepting, but societal pressure is this invisible force. Thankfully, there are support places - online forums, local groups, hotlines. Confiding in trusted friends can do wonders too. Let them walk with you for a bit when you feel like you can’t move. And no need to rush yourself. This is your journey, navigate it at your own pace. Hope this helps, stay brave!

Yeah, the road trip analogy is spot on. It’s like being in a forest at night, only seeing a bit of the path with each step you take. It can be super scary, but know that it’s your journey, no one else’s. There might be moments when you feel alone, but remember there are people ready to help. If you feel safe and comfortable, talk to your friends about it. If not, there are online communities where you can find people going through similar experiences. I’ve found friends, both online and offline, that turned into my real support system. And, you know what? It gets easier over time, I promise. Hang in there, pal. You’re stronger than you give yourself credit for.

Agree with you 100%, especially about how scary it can be at times – but isn’t it just a relief to know that you’re not alone in this? I also found a lot of help online when I was coming to terms with my own identity. It was tough, not gonna lie, but once you get past that initial fear, let me tell you, it’s so worth it. And always remember, it’s more important to live as your authentic self than it is to please others. If anyone’s got a problem with your identity, that’s their issue, not yours. Keep going strong, my friend. You’ve got this.

You hit the nail on the head, pal! That initial fear can be such a monster, but you’re so right about it being a game changer once you’ve pushed through it. Living authentically is the biggest win. It might not feel like it 100% of the time, but trust me, the moments of peace and self acceptance far outweight the rough parts. The haters? Let ’em hate. At the end of the day, it’s their issue, not yours. Stick to your guns, you’re doing great! 👍

Agree with you, fear is a beast but taming it is part of the journey, right? It’s your life, your identity, don’t let anyone ruin it for you. Those who love you for you will stick around, and that’s the type of people you want in your life. That peace and self-acceptance you get when you live authentically seriously feels like a new lease on life. And remember, people’s negative opinions are a reflection of them, not you. So keep doing you, you’re doing amazing! 💪 Don’t forget, it’s okay to reach out if you ever feel overwhelmed. We’re all here to support each other. Take care! 🌈

It sounds like you're going through a significant period of self-discovery, and that's okay. Many people have experienced similar feelings, especially during times of reflection like the lockdown. It's perfectly normal to question things and feel confused about your identity and attractions. Remember, it's a journey, not a race. You don't have to label yourself right away or at all if it doesn't feel right. Just take your time and explore what makes you happy and comfortable.

Being drawn to different genders or relating more to femininity doesn't mean you have to fit into a specific box. It's all about what feels authentic to you. Try to connect with communities or groups where you can share your experiences without judgment. Talking to others who have been through similar experiences can be incredibly reassuring. You're not alone in this, and there are many people who can offer support and understanding. 🌈