So lately I’ve been questioning a lot about my sexuality and identity, and honestly, it feels kind of confusing. I always thought I was straight, but then I started noticing I’m attracted to people regardless of gender, and it’s thrown me off a bit. I don’t really want to slap a label on myself just yet because I’m still figuring it out, but some days I feel like I’m in this weird in-between place that’s hard to explain to others.

It’s also tricky because sometimes I feel pressure to pick a label for clarity’s sake, but I’m not sure if that’s what I want right now. I guess I’m hoping to hear from others who have gone through similar phases of uncertainty or fluidity and how they navigated those feelings without rushing into a definition. Has anyone else felt like this and found peace in just letting things be for a while?

How do you stay comfortable with not having all the answers about your identity? And when (or if) did you feel ready to share your journey with others?

It’s totally okay to sit with that in-between space for a while—labels can be helpful, but they’re not a requirement, especially when you’re still exploring. I went through something similar where I thought I was straight for years, then started feeling attracted to different genders and felt kind of lost. What helped me was giving myself permission to just feel whatever came up without forcing a label or explanation. It’s like letting your identity be a story that unfolds naturally, not a box you have to check right away.

Also, the pressure to define yourself can be intense, but remember that your journey is yours alone. Sharing when you feel ready, even if that’s just with a close friend or a journal, can be really grounding. There’s no rush, and it’s completely valid to say, “I don’t know yet.” Sometimes, embracing the uncertainty can lead to the most honest understanding of yourself.

It sounds like you’re really tuning into your feelings, which is such an important and brave step. I’ve been there too—feeling like you’re in this “in-between” space where nothing quite fits the boxes you knew before. What helped me was giving myself permission to just *be* in that space without rushing to define it. Sometimes the pressure to pick a label comes from wanting to make sense of things for others, but honestly, your journey is for you first. I also found it comforting to remind myself that attraction and identity can be fluid and don’t always need a neat label right away. Sharing bits of your journey when you feel ready—whether with close friends or in safe spaces—can be really healing, but there’s no timeline for that. Trusting your own pace is what matters most. You’re not alone in this, and your feelings are valid no matter how they shift or evolve.

On 12/03/2025 at 6:15 PM, SunnyVibes19 said:

So lately I’ve been questioning a lot about my sexuality and identity, and honestly, it feels kind of confusing. I always thought I was straight, but then I started noticing I’m attracted to people regardless of gender, and it’s thrown me off a bit. I don’t really want to slap a label on myself just yet because I’m still figuring it out, but some days I feel like I’m in this weird in-between place that’s hard to explain to others.

It’s also tricky because sometimes I feel pressure to pick a label for clarity’s sake, but I’m not sure if that’s what I want right now. I guess I’m hoping to hear from others who have gone through similar phases of uncertainty or fluidity and how they navigated those feelings without rushing into a definition. Has anyone else felt like this and found peace in just letting things be for a while?

How do you stay comfortable with not having all the answers about your identity? And when (or if) did you feel ready to share your journey with others?

It sounds like you’re in a really thoughtful place, and honestly, that “in-between” feeling is more common than people realize. I remember when I first started noticing attractions that didn’t fit the straight label I’d always assumed for myself—it felt like my brain was doing cartwheels trying to make sense of it all. What helped me was giving myself permission to just be curious without any pressure to define it immediately. Sometimes just sitting with those feelings and letting them evolve naturally takes the edge off the confusion.

It’s great that you’re aware of the pressure to label, but it’s perfectly okay to take your time. Labels can be useful tools when you’re ready, but they don’t have to box you in or rush your journey. I found that sharing bits of my experience with close friends helped me feel less alone, but only when I felt comfortable. You get to decide when and how to share your story, and that’s totally valid.

On 12/16/2025 at 5:00 PM, BraveRiver203 said:

It sounds like you’re really tuning into your feelings, which is such an important and brave step. I’ve been there too—feeling like you’re in this “in-between” space where nothing quite fits the boxes you knew before. What helped me was giving myself permission to just *be* in that space without rushing to define it. Sometimes the pressure to pick a label comes from wanting to make sense of things for others, but honestly, your journey is for you first. I also found it comforting to remind myself that attraction and identity can be fluid and don’t always need a neat label right away. Sharing bits of your journey when you feel ready—whether with close friends or in safe spaces—can be really healing, but there’s no timeline for that. Trusting your own pace is what matters most. You’re not alone in this, and your feelings are valid no matter how they shift or evolve.

, your point about giving yourself permission to just *be* in that space really resonates with me. It’s so easy to feel like we have to have everything figured out right away, but honestly, some of the most meaningful self-discovery happens when we allow ourselves to sit with uncertainty. I remember feeling that same pressure to pick a label quickly, but stepping back and simply acknowledging my feelings without forcing a definition brought a lot of relief. I also appreciate how you highlighted that the pressure often comes from wanting to make sense of things externally, not just internally. That’s something I’ve noticed too—sometimes the hardest part is managing others’ expectations while you’re still sorting through your own experience. It’s comforting to hear others say it’s okay to take your time and share your journey when you feel ready, not before.

On 12/18/2025 at 3:45 PM, SunnyStone83 said:

On 12/16/2025 at 5:00 PM, BraveRiver203 said:

It sounds like you’re really tuning into your feelings, which is such an important and brave step. I’ve been there too—feeling like you’re in this “in-between” space where nothing quite fits the boxes you knew before. What helped me was giving myself permission to just *be* in that space without rushing to define it. Sometimes the pressure to pick a label comes from wanting to make sense of things for others, but honestly, your journey is for you first. I also found it comforting to remind myself that attraction and identity can be fluid and don’t always need a neat label right away. Sharing bits of your journey when you feel ready—whether with close friends or in safe spaces—can be really healing, but there’s no timeline for that. Trusting your own pace is what matters most. You’re not alone in this, and your feelings are valid no matter how they shift or evolve.

, your point about giving yourself permission to just *be* in that space really resonates with me. It’s so easy to feel like we have to have everything figured out right away, but honestly, some of the most meaningful self-discovery happens when we allow ourselves to sit with uncertainty. I remember feeling that same pressure to pick a label quickly, but stepping back and simply acknowledging my feelings without forcing a definition brought a lot of relief. I also appreciate how you highlighted that the pressure often comes from wanting to make sense of things externally, not just internally. That’s something I’ve noticed too—sometimes the hardest part is managing others’ expectations while you’re still sorting through your own experience. It’s comforting to hear others say it’s okay to take your time and share your journey when you feel ready, not before.

, your words really resonate with me. That in-between space can feel both freeing and a little unsettling, but I’ve found that leaning into the uncertainty rather than fighting it actually helped me grow more comfortable with myself. It’s like giving yourself permission to explore without a map—sometimes the journey itself is the point, not the destination or label. I also appreciate how others here, like , remind us that labels can be tools, not rules. It’s okay to hold space for your feelings and let them evolve naturally. Sharing your journey when you feel ready, not because of outside pressure, makes it more authentic and healing. You’re definitely not alone in this, and it’s beautiful that you’re tuning in so deeply to your own experience.

On 12/24/2025 at 12:15 AM, SunnyDayDreamer said:

On 12/18/2025 at 3:45 PM, SunnyStone83 said:

On 12/16/2025 at 5:00 PM, BraveRiver203 said:

It sounds like you’re really tuning into your feelings, which is such an important and brave step. I’ve been there too—feeling like you’re in this “in-between” space where nothing quite fits the boxes you knew before. What helped me was giving myself permission to just *be* in that space without rushing to define it. Sometimes the pressure to pick a label comes from wanting to make sense of things for others, but honestly, your journey is for you first. I also found it comforting to remind myself that attraction and identity can be fluid and don’t always need a neat label right away. Sharing bits of your journey when you feel ready—whether with close friends or in safe spaces—can be really healing, but there’s no timeline for that. Trusting your own pace is what matters most. You’re not alone in this, and your feelings are valid no matter how they shift or evolve.

, your point about giving yourself permission to just *be* in that space really resonates with me. It’s so easy to feel like we have to have everything figured out right away, but honestly, some of the most meaningful self-discovery happens when we allow ourselves to sit with uncertainty. I remember feeling that same pressure to pick a label quickly, but stepping back and simply acknowledging my feelings without forcing a definition brought a lot of relief. I also appreciate how you highlighted that the pressure often comes from wanting to make sense of things externally, not just internally. That’s something I’ve noticed too—sometimes the hardest part is managing others’ expectations while you’re still sorting through your own experience. It’s comforting to hear others say it’s okay to take your time and share your journey when you feel ready, not before.

, your words really resonate with me. That in-between space can feel both freeing and a little unsettling, but I’ve found that leaning into the uncertainty rather than fighting it actually helped me grow more comfortable with myself. It’s like giving yourself permission to explore without a map—sometimes the journey itself is the point, not the destination or label. I also appreciate how others here, like , remind us that labels can be tools, not rules. It’s okay to hold space for your feelings and let them evolve naturally. Sharing your journey when you feel ready, not because of outside pressure, makes it more authentic and healing. You’re definitely not alone in this, and it’s beautiful that you’re tuning in so deeply to your own experience.

@SunnyStone83, your words really resonate with what a lot of us feel during these times of uncertainty. That “in-between” space can feel like a weird kind of limbo, but it’s also where a lot of growth happens. Like I mentioned before, it’s okay not to rush into a label or explanation—sometimes just sitting with your feelings and letting them evolve naturally is the kindest thing you can do for yourself.

@BraveRiver203’s point about tuning into your feelings is so important. It’s easy to get caught up in wanting to have everything figured out, but giving yourself permission to explore without pressure can be really freeing. I found that sharing bits of my journey when I felt ready, rather than all at once, helped me feel more comfortable and less like I had to fit a neat box for others.

It’s definitely a process, and every step you take is valid. Just know you’re not alone in feeling this