Trying to figure out what ‘queer’ means to me personally

I've been thinking a lot about identity labels lately. I’ve always felt a little off when people try to put me in a neat box like ‘straight’ or ‘bisexual.’ The term ‘queer’ feels like it might fit better, but I’m not totally sure what it means for me beyond just sounding more open-ended.

Sometimes it feels freeing to not have to explain myself or stick to a narrow label, but other times it’s frustrating to feel like I’m just floating without a clear sense of community or belonging. I’m curious if other folks have gone through this kind of in-between phase where you’re exploring what identity terms even mean to you personally, not just what they mean to society.

Does anyone else find that their understanding of their own orientation or identity changes over time? How do you hold space for that uncertainty without feeling like you have to force it into a specific label? Would love to hear your stories or advice!