Feeling a bit lost about where I fit in the LGBTQ+ spectrum

Posted November 20Nov 20

I've been thinking a lot lately about my own sexuality and identity, and honestly, it feels like trying to catch smoke. I’ve always been attracted to people regardless of gender, but I’m not sure if I should call myself bisexual, pansexual, or just say I’m queer. Sometimes I worry that putting a label on it might box me in or make me feel like I have to explain myself all the time.

It’s also a little overwhelming because some days I feel more one way, and other days, it shifts. I guess I just want to feel okay with the fluidity without having to fit into a neat category. I’d love to hear from others who have felt this kind of uncertainty or who have found comfort in embracing a more flexible identity.

How did you come to understand and accept your own fluidity or changing feelings? Did giving yourself permission to be ‘in-between’ or ‘not-fixed’ help you feel more at peace? Any advice on navigating this without the pressure of labels would be amazing.

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November 23Nov 23

On 11/20/2025 at 2:30 PM, HappyPawsGal said:
I've been thinking a lot lately about my own sexuality and identity, and honestly, it feels like trying to catch smoke. I’ve always been attracted to people regardless of gender, but I’m not sure if I should call myself bisexual,...

That feeling of trying to pin down something as fluid as attraction really resonates with me. I’ve been in that same spot where labels felt more like a cage than a comfort. What helped me was reminding myself that labels are tools, not rules. If calling yourself queer feels right because it’s broad and leaves room for change, that’s totally valid. You don’t owe anyone a detailed explanation unless you want to share it.

Some days I swing more toward one identity, other days another, and that’s okay. Embracing that “in-between” space actually gave me a lot of peace because it meant I wasn’t stuck trying to fit a fixed box. It’s your journey, and it’s perfectly fine to let your understanding of yourself evolve naturally without pressure. Just be gentle with yourself and trust that your feelings are valid, however they show up.

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