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I hav a girl frd ..we are best frds for past 4 yrs......and now i think iam n love with her..is it good to tell her that am n love with her ?? i think our relationship would break if done so...and from past history i learnt that she is just an easy going type.................but still i am not prepared so .............i knw i cant leave her shes is such a girl i wanted in my life !! ...........so please tell me some tips so that i can approach her in right direction ......
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You should just tell her, if she feels the same way, then everyone's happy. If she doesn't and she's your best friend, then she shouldn't care.
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i think it depends on ur level of friendship....do u like..um..call her every day??
i mean..other than ur meeting from school(i assume that u are a student)..
do u send messages to her??
if u do all this..then i do think u are a bit more than best friends...
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Just say it right away. Have you ever wondered which hurts the most: saying something and wishing you had not, or saying nothing, and wishing you had?
Here is a story I got from my friend, it taught me very well
10th grade
As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
11th grade
The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Senior year
The day before prom she walked to my locker. My date is sick" she said; he's not going to go well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as "best friends". So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn't think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Graduation Day
A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "you're my best friend, thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
A Few Years Later
Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said "you came!". She said "thanks" and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Funeral
Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my "best friend". At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me! `I wish I did too...` I thought to my self, and I cried.
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(05-28-2010, 07:10 AM)Theref Wrote:
10th grade
As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
11th grade
The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Senior year
The day before prom she walked to my locker. My date is sick" she said; he's not going to go well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as "best friends". So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn't think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Graduation Day
A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "you're my best friend, thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
A Few Years Later
Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said "you came!". She said "thanks" and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Funeral
Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my "best friend". At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me! `I wish I did too...` I thought to my self, and I cried.
Emotional crap man 
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If you feel it will possibly mess your relationship up if you tell her you are in love with her, I advise against it. But if you really want to let her know how you feel, perhaps a lighter approach would be in order. Such as telling her you feel you are falling for her. Even ligher; You feel happy with her every time you see her, and that feeling is only increasing. I poked around and tested my girlfriend for a while, with little hints like that, before I actually told her I was in love with her.
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(05-28-2010, 09:34 AM)TheGeniusism Wrote: Emotional crap man You'll be surprised to know that it's actually copy-pasted from 4chan.
On topic. Tell her you love her. The worst that can happen is you become awkward friends.
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(05-28-2010, 11:29 PM)IllusionSlayer Wrote: You'll be surprised to know that it's actually copy-pasted from 4chan.
On topic. Tell her you love her. The worst that can happen is you become awkward friends. Although it's copy pasted, it still a good story IMO
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05-29-2010, 10:43 PM
(This post was last modified: 05-29-2010, 10:48 PM by Matt™.)
Wait what
I don't understand what you just said...
Let me do a translation...
Quote:I have a girl friend, we have been best friends for the past 4 years. Now I think I am in love with her, so is it good to tell her that I am in love with her? I think our relationship would break if I did tell her, and from past history I have learnt that she is just an easy going type, but I am still not prepared. I know I can't leave her she is just the type of girl I have always wanted in my life! So please tell me some tips on how I can approach her in the right direction.
Thanks.
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Thanks for the translation Matt, now I can help this person better. At OP, I honestly think you should let her know how you feel, she may feel the same way about you as well, considering how long you've known each other. The worst thing that could happen is a little awkwardness, and best case scenario is that she says she loves you too and you can take your relationship further.
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