Hey, so i am 14 a fairly shy, and idk im more respectfull to and look for more in girls then most guys my age seem to. I rarley find girls im willing to date just because i dont like snobs or whores. I found one that i like how she looks and from what i seen i like what she acts like. I have one problem though, I only see her in the morning we havent talked in 2+ yrs she probably doesnt remeber who i am really. Im the kinda guy that wont go talk to a girl whiles shes around friends though unless i have talked to her before and she knows who i am exc. So there lies the problem she is around her friends quite abit and shes never really alone. I dont really know what i should, i mean i could just let it go but as said i rarley find agirl that i like and im willing to date.
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I understand your problem, relationships around the early teen years are usually hard to start. They're most likely embarrassing and it takes courage to ask a girl out, especially with friends around.
For this mate I think you should take the direct approach, girls like confidence and talking to her directly and asking her out in front of friends will probably throw her making you appear well off.
You ultimately have to face your fears on this one or, perhaps text, email or Facebook her and establish a connection first.
Good luck.
Its not the asking out i have a problem with im extremely comfortable with that. I just dont like approaching them around there friends to introduce myself you know what i mean?
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It's actually rather common for any guy to not want to talk to a girl around her friends. See, the thing is a lot of men fear rejection to a certain point, we all don't want it to happen to us.
What girls like though, is confidence. A guy with confidence can get a girl in no time. If you are confident, you will be able to go up to her and ask her out. Maybe just ask if you could talk to her though when she looks bored around her friends, pull her off to the side and say what's up.
Getting a lot of confidence for someone who is somewhat inexperienced with girls can be rough, but I know you can do it.
Good luck
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Just approach her and her friends and be like excuse me can I ask you a quick question, Then be like look I just wanted to say I think your very Beautiful and you dress very well and I like your personality but I was wondering if you would like to go see a movie or hang out some time? She will look at her friends and the trick is you have to impress her friends NOT SO MUCH HER but her friends, Friends play an important role in a young teenage girls life. If her friends don't like you, Then your already digging yourself a deeper hole. Win her friends over and you Most Likely will win her over. I know this from previous experiences when I was young.
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I told myself the same thing, just go up and be like "Hey, long time, no talk."
I have come up with an idea i am going to try before the ones you guys have told me. She is a cheerleader so next week at the next football game im gonna go to try and get a chance to talk to her after it / before it ( i dont usually go to them im not the biggest fan of football)