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You can't really fix her man. I'm sorry. I've dealt with girls like this before and it will just bring yourself down....very down. You literally cannot fix her.
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02-05-2012, 10:16 AM
(This post was last modified: 02-05-2012, 10:19 AM by ÜB3R.)
The best thing you can do if her parents will not listen is maybe you speak to her parents and tell them exactly what the situation is. If this fails then the best thing would to be ring a depression help line of some kind and ask them which direction to take. Also goin to the doctor would be even better as he will put her on tests for depression and anxiety. Personally i would not advise you trying to get her back to normal as you are far too young to try and emotionally stabilize someone and could actually make the situation worse. Hope this helps
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Try to talk to her more, not just joke around. Know her more if you can. Ask other people about her. Find a mental therapist.
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Girlfriend gets pretty depressed herself, i deal with it by being as sweet as i can, all the time...hope this helps :/
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(02-05-2012, 08:26 AM)Pierre Lambito Wrote: I didn't leave the girl I'm referring to. I'd rather let you know now, that she cannot be fixed by you rather than tell you "look man, just beg her to tell you all her secrets until you find out the reason she wants to kill herself. Then she'll hate you and you'll make the situation worse!"
No, don't press on. The girl I am talking about said she'll kill herself if I left her. Of course I stayed with her for another two months before I couldn't take it anymore. I was becoming depressed, and I was not going to let a threat like that bring me down. Guess what, she never killed herself.
This does not apply to you because she is not threatening to kill herself if you leave, but because of something else. It is not your job as a 16 year old to figure that out, or try to fix it. I'm sorry, but it is true.
She's not suicidal because of him leaving, she's suicidal because she's depressed.
Really, all advice has been given.
Mine, confront her with what makes her happy in life, maybe then you could get somewhere with her
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