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I can't find the right words to express my sympathy. I love my grandmother so much and I don't think I can handle it if anything like this happened.
I think Parkinson's and Alzheimer's, would be a possible explanation. Giving your grandmother something to amuse herself with, like say a knitting kit, would keep her out of trouble, and at the same time, exercise her mind. I hope this can help a little.
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(01-27-2011, 09:23 PM)Mao Wrote: I can't find the right words to express my sympathy. I love my grandmother so much and I don't think I can handle it if anything like this happened.
I think Parkinson's and Alzheimer's, would be a possible explanation. Giving your grandmother something to amuse herself with, like say a knitting kit, would keep her out of trouble, and at the same time, exercise her mind. I hope this can help a little.
She's easily distracted. That wouldn't work. We've tried keeping her occupied but it doesn't work.
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Does she enjoy to do any hobbies (i.e., knitting, cooking, exercising)?
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Sorry to hear about the news mate. I hope it all gets better..
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(01-28-2011, 04:30 PM)Deltron Wrote: Does she enjoy to do any hobbies (i.e., knitting, cooking, exercising)?
She doesn't have a personalty anymore. I don't know what she enjoys. She's a vegetable.
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About 2 days ago, my dad come over because there was a problem with the plumbing at my house. After we fixed it, he was pointing out all kinds of chores that needed to be done around the house and he said that 'we ruined the house' since he moved out. I'm the man of the house now. My mom is stuck taking care of my grandmother all the time and both my sisters don't contribute to the upkeep of our home. Cutting the grass, locking the doors before night, making sure the garage is in order, fixing the toilet when it breaks, etc. These may sound like tedious responsibilities but anyone that is in my situation and that knows what taking care of a 3-story home in tales will understand my perspective.
Regardless, as he was pointing out things that needed to be done, I was taking note of everything in my head so that I can make a to-do list when he left. And so I did. I wrote down all the things that I need to do from now until the summer to renovate my house. Yesterday I vacuumed the entire house and tidied up my garage. I replaced all the tools where they needed to be. I sold some old bikes and other things online to clear up some room and then went out at night. This morning I went to school at 6 AM, came back, ate, and went to the gym for a couple of hours. Now, I get home and I find a mess all over the kitchen floor. Some sort of water spill, undoubtedly my grandmother's wrongdoing, which aggravated me since I'm trying to make my house look nice again, like it was when my dad was living with us. And then, all of a sudden, it hit me; it's an impossible task living with my grandmother. No matter how hard I try to maintain the house, no one will help me and my grandmother just makes fires quicker than I can put them out. My mom doesn't clean anymore because she uses her free time to escape to her boyfriend's house or smoke to relieve stress. I get where she's coming from, that fact that she's the one that takes care of my grandmother the most and she needs her time to unwind but my mom is exhausting her options right now. She really needs to put her in a home. I've called up my dad and told him that I really wanna do whatever it takes, sell this house and anything else, in order to come up with the money to have my grandmother live somewhere else. I want a nice home but this is just going to work and I'm about to give up on my renovation project. It's embarrassing though, when friends come over. They walk around and they're crumbs on the ground, the floor is dirty, really dirty! and the dishes aren't done or properly done so that there's still stains everywhere or food remains on the dishes that have been put back into the pantry after wash. My mom doesn't wash the dishes properly anymore because she doesn't use them. She's always eating at her boyfriend's house. So she just rinses them out. It's really awful. When friends come over, I go to get dishes for supper and there's ketchup stains and food residues stuck on the dish. I can't take it anymore. I really need to figure something out. All I know is that I want to live myself and it's not fair that just because my grandmother is ill, my mom has to ruin mine.
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(04-01-2011, 01:09 PM)Bananankage Wrote: Wow Solidify, I really really do feel for you. I feel really bad for you mate 
I really do wish the best for you and your family 
After a while, no offense, but all these wishes don't serve me any help. I need a solution.
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can you talk to her in a conversation? will she respond to you or ignore you like you aren't even there? what does she believe the flowers are on the floor?
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(04-01-2011, 01:21 PM)Infinity Wrote: can you talk to her in a conversation? will she respond to you or ignore you like you aren't even there? what does she believe the flowers are on the floor?
I can talk to her but she won't answer my questions. She's really stubborn. But in a way she has no choice to do this.
And what flowers?
