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[monique12345]

Yeah he did

[HakkuR*]

Depends, people show affection in many ways.

[monique12345]

Too true. I still like to receive opinons and advice as to possible moves forward. i have no clue what this guys wants or feels. Like one person said, i may receive wrong signals. he may be mixed up, wanted only a hook up or feel alot for me and this is why he is uncomfortable and not spending anytime with me or talking outside of class like before. Tiresome to say the least and i like to know where i stand. Any ideas, anyone? My fault for growing to like him alot.

[Intel]

If he looks you deep in the eyes and smiles every time he talk/sees you, or if he asks you if you have a boyfriend.

[monique12345]

Thank you. He does look deep. After having more of a email discussion yesterday. He says he likes me and wants to have sex. He thinks i am soo good looking and hot that he gets turned on just looking at me or even thinking about me. His words not mine. As he has kids but divorced, he mentioned he has little time. but he seems to have time for sex. I asked on another thread when is the best time for this and if this does not make me out to be some cheap easy woman in a skirt. I am an intelligent person who has grown feelings for this guy. i like his directness but he makes me feel bad also. There is a connection but it may be for him just a sexual one. He was so nice in the beginning to me, then he backed of cold and hurtful when i asked him to stop having a pass at me. i thought it is nicer to slowly get to know one another but he thinks he already knows me and wants to know if we are secually compatible to develop a relationship. After a month of emotional turmoil with this guy for being so weird and non responsive to emails and texts, he mentioned that i may be giving into him a bit. I wonder if that is why he is writing to me now asking me if i like kissing and sex, my favouritee positions and how orgasms - the works. I asked him if he wants to meet for lunch and talk and get to know one another and why he was so weird with me. I even stated that i like him alot and a physical act is not just a physical act for me. Am i going to get hurt and he does not care? He clearly stated that he is a man with needs. I like it if a man considers my needs. how can he respect me if i am that easy to just not date, meet him at his convenience when he has time and he might get strange again when I even whisper emotions. I am good looking, every says it, but i believe beauty is within and i care for people and their hearts/emotions. Have i made a mistake to like the wrong guy? or do i have some twisted relationship with the idea of sex? He commented that i think sex seems to diminish a relationship. or is he just manipulating me again? he does not contact me regularly and his life seems to be run by his children. I have actually sent him an email asking him to think whether he is treating me like he wants a man to treat his daughter. if he wont wait, then i guess iam not that special for him i have written as i have needs on all levels of attraction. spiritual, emotional, physical/sexual and intellectual. What are your thoughts on all this everyone? Is he just wanting an escort girl and has some serious emotional issues?

[Intel]

if he wont wait, then i guess iam not that special for him i have written as i have needs on all levels of attraction. spiritual, emotional, physical/sexual and intellectual. What are your thoughts on all this everyone? Is he just wanting an escort girl and has some serious emotional issues?

If he won't wait, he's the one who isn't special for you. Guys who are just in it for sex don't deserve sensitive women who look for a serious relationship. Make sure you know what he really wants and if he wants you enough to wait for sex and be sensitive about your needs and issues.

[monique12345]

Thanks Intel. I try to figure it out but i dont seem to get a straight answer except he feels sex is part of knowing if the relationship will be good. Someone said he it is not good then would one even want to be in a relationship. My belief is that this is also another level to explore with someone, rather than have them perform. Seems harsh and cold. I shall post the response i get. his kids mean the world to him and if he is in full consciousness treating me like he wants a man to treat his daughter then I will know it when i see him next week. It puzzles me as to why he wont see me outside of class. It is obviously convenient for him and he seems very selfish.

[Dotty]

For anyone who has an opinion on this. How do you know if a guy is sincere and genuine in really liking you in a relationship way? What does it mean when they think you are really nice?

This is all about interpretation with a mix of experience. All views are warmly welcomed.

Thanks everyone for their time and shared wisdome

There is no such thing. Every guy wants ass. Except me of course, I'm pure ;)

[monique12345]

Thank you Dotty for the honesty. I am a firm believer that there are some very good people out there. Offcourse no-one wants to be fooled. So the question is how to identify a person like you to genuinely like someone and be into them from those who just want ass in your terminology?

[Endless™]

If that guy is always looking and starring at you..