(07-30-2011, 04:58 AM)Correct Wrote: if she ends it with her bf then goes right to u he'll will hate u most likely and ur boy is ur boy they cant be replaced easy a girl can dont lose ur boy over a chick talk to him, even have him brake it off like convince her to cheat on him NOT WITH YOu that way he brakes it off with her and go out with her secretly for a little then tell ppl
I wouldn't necessarily do that. If this is a friend that he knows is his friend, and not just a "close person" then I wouldn't consider getting with her at all, at least until maybe he loses feelings for her completely, and you can confirm that.
You shouldn't have to ask your friend though if it's okay, but assumptions could arise after it being so soon after the breakup that she's going out with him.
It's okay for someone to have feelings for another while they are in a relationship. But to break the committment and loyalty, and try to hide it, is one other thing that I personally hate seeing.
Those are the boundaries as far as i'm concerned. Even if it takes the truth, that's far better than breaking the bond with a disloyal act.
I'd expect to hear something from her at the least about the current situation if I was her boyfriend. Then maybe I could be understanding.
But the one thing would be if she was going out with a friend of mine.
There's a huge debate about whether it's right to spend too much time with another person while your in a relationship, and how much time is "too much time". In reality, I don't think there is an answer, I think it differs/varies from couple to couple.
What people SHOULD do is set a list of rules from the start, so they know the limits they can't push. That would be one of them. It's about knowing what each other are comfortable with, and what he/she isn't comfortable with. It breaks more couple's than I can count.