04-30-2010, 08:27 AM
It sounds like a really tough emotional situation that you are in. I am sympathetic.
No, you are not a creep and I don't think the situation is rare, either. You met someone whom you like under unusual social circumstances and you are trying to resolve it. You clearly care for this girl a lot. It is difficult to rationalise tender feelings and for whom you feel them.
The reality is that although you are not technically related by blood, you are socially related as though you are brother and sister. Although not rare, those in a similar situation are often judged harshly, by themselves and others.
Yet you need to be firm with what you feel now. Though challenging, you have to steer your mind away from thoughts of a relationship with this girl. It is not going to be easy and you will have to consciously focus on other activities and people who will not remind you of her. You need to create emotional bonds with others.
I shall reply again after giving more thought to your post. Stay strong.
No, you are not a creep and I don't think the situation is rare, either. You met someone whom you like under unusual social circumstances and you are trying to resolve it. You clearly care for this girl a lot. It is difficult to rationalise tender feelings and for whom you feel them.
The reality is that although you are not technically related by blood, you are socially related as though you are brother and sister. Although not rare, those in a similar situation are often judged harshly, by themselves and others.
Yet you need to be firm with what you feel now. Though challenging, you have to steer your mind away from thoughts of a relationship with this girl. It is not going to be easy and you will have to consciously focus on other activities and people who will not remind you of her. You need to create emotional bonds with others.
I shall reply again after giving more thought to your post. Stay strong.