Is brutal honesty a bad thing?

[Heli0s]

You know what, Elektrisk? I actually had an encounter with this specific problem about a week ago.

Me and a buddy went to dinner with this girl I'm talking to (We'll call her Yvette for the sake of confusion) and one of her friends. Now, my friend has certain... tendencies, I guess you could call them. I'll be straight-up, he's kind of a weirdo and somewhat awkward. He's not exactly Rico Suave when it comes to women, either. I could tell Yvette was getting kind of annoyed because of him.

I had never known Yvette the way she did , so it was a surprise when she said some pretty random stuff. After we ate, we were just sitting at the table shooting around conversation. Yvette must have had enough, because she looks at my friend and says "You're pretty weird. I'm sorry but I don't think I can ever be your friend. Don't you know how to talk to people?"

There was literally a solid minute of quiet awkwardness after that. I had to break the ice because I knew nobody else would. I stayed silent because I chose to. Now some people would defend their friend, some would stay quiet like I did, and some would stir up some drama. So I just pretended like it didn't happen.

When I got home, I started thinking: It's not about whether being open and honest to people, it's about being considerate of other people's emotions and common courtesy. I wasn't about to judge and point fingers at who's right and who's wrong or start burning bridges with friends. The main focus here is personality

There's a time and place for everything. There's a difference between being brutally honest and being rude. I'm not saying anything towards you, Elektrisk. You know that. I'm just saying... Some people appreciate the truth, no matter how hardcore it is. Some don't. You yourself have to judge who's ready for it, who deserves it, and whether or not it's alright to give.