If your parents divorced when you were 2 and your mom didn't remarry until you were 11, sounds to me like she was probably very lonely for many years.
Just because some guy marries your mom doesn't automatically mean that he has any idea of how to be a parent. Does he have any kids of his own? Maybe the reason he doesn't pay much attention to you or do anything with you is because he's been given the feeling that you're not interested and don't want him to? I don't know how much time I'd want to spend with someone who considered me to be a "stupid ignorant fudge." People who think that about me, I ignore or avoid at all costs.
If you do want him to act more like a dad, I'd recommend you make the first step and ask if he'll do something with you. You might be surprised.
If not, oh well. Your choice!
On a personal note, my parents divorced when I was somewhere around 11 or 12, can't really remember, and in fact, they did it so quietly and gradually that I don't even remember him actually moving out and leaving.
They both did remarry while we were all in our teens, and really liked both our stepparents, and really glad my dad had 2 more children--our half-siblings are great! Well, my stepmom kind of went whacky, and my dad ended up divorcing her because he wasn't about to move to Jerusalem with her and the cult she joined that decided she was the 2nd coming of Jesus Christ, but aside from that, she was very entertaining. Our mom divorced our stepdad when he started drinking too much, but he was still a pretty nice and we still see him every so often.
It's a 2 way street. You both have to be willing to make compromises and meet somewhere in the midde. If that's not possible, well, you're 14, so only 4 years to go. You can start the countdown.....now!
BTW, why doesn't he work? Did he get laid off? Is he disabled and on disability? Or is he just lazy?
If he's home all day, why does your mom take your brother to daycare instead of having him watch him?
Just because some guy marries your mom doesn't automatically mean that he has any idea of how to be a parent. Does he have any kids of his own? Maybe the reason he doesn't pay much attention to you or do anything with you is because he's been given the feeling that you're not interested and don't want him to? I don't know how much time I'd want to spend with someone who considered me to be a "stupid ignorant fudge." People who think that about me, I ignore or avoid at all costs.
If you do want him to act more like a dad, I'd recommend you make the first step and ask if he'll do something with you. You might be surprised.
If not, oh well. Your choice!
On a personal note, my parents divorced when I was somewhere around 11 or 12, can't really remember, and in fact, they did it so quietly and gradually that I don't even remember him actually moving out and leaving.
They both did remarry while we were all in our teens, and really liked both our stepparents, and really glad my dad had 2 more children--our half-siblings are great! Well, my stepmom kind of went whacky, and my dad ended up divorcing her because he wasn't about to move to Jerusalem with her and the cult she joined that decided she was the 2nd coming of Jesus Christ, but aside from that, she was very entertaining. Our mom divorced our stepdad when he started drinking too much, but he was still a pretty nice and we still see him every so often.
It's a 2 way street. You both have to be willing to make compromises and meet somewhere in the midde. If that's not possible, well, you're 14, so only 4 years to go. You can start the countdown.....now!
BTW, why doesn't he work? Did he get laid off? Is he disabled and on disability? Or is he just lazy?
If he's home all day, why does your mom take your brother to daycare instead of having him watch him?
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