Well...Here it goes.

[majordave]

You know, Loved me for me or loved me as an "Us." Well, Recently she broke up with her boyfriend, and I again get excited thinking "Maybe I have a chance." So I tell that I really wanna be with her and all she said "I'm sorry D-Rock, I really am, But I just can't" So naturally, I asked why? and she has yet to talk to me and I'm not sure what to do.

What it means is that she does love you, but as a dear friend, not as a romantic relationship.

I have people tell me they love me, pretty much on a daily basis, and often, quite a few! I know by saying "I love you" they don't mean they want to date, have sex, or have me carry their baby (unless maybe it's a "cyberbaby.")

Instead of being upset, give some thought to what you yourself said about how you fell in love with her in 3 seconds because she was "beautiful". Admit it. You were attracted to her because of her looks, weren't you?

If she had been ugly would you have fallen in love with her? Or morbidly obese? When it comes to romance, don't underestimate the importance of appearance.

Although there are some who find a little extra, or even a lot, of extra weight appealing, others who don't, just don't, and there's nothing you can do or say that can change their minds. We either find another person attractive, or we don't!

When I see someone wearing mismatched, wrinkled clothes, who looks as if they just rolled out from sleeping under a truck, their weight is irrelevant. What I find unattractive is that it says to me that if they don't care enough about themselves to clean up their act, then they're not going to treat me any better. I could very well be wrong about that but it doesn't matter, because I'll never give them the opportunity to find out. I present myself in an attractive, appealing manner, and I expect anyone who would desire a romantic relationship with me to have the courtesy to do the same, and find it disrepectful, even rude, if they don't. Now, there are some girls who this wouldn't bother. Good, they can go be with them, just not me.

It's not the obesity in and of itself. It's that it says the same thing. If you want a romantic relationship with someone, then you should be willing to do what it takes to make yourself into a person that YOU would want to be with.

I wish you the best of luck!