01-20-2010, 04:24 AM
Well, you can't actually control your thoughts so telling yourself not to think about her wont help much. What I suggest may seem rather drastic but you will decide - delete all her contacts like phone number, MSN, etc. so you are not tempted to call her. If she calls you - say you're busy (or any other reason) You should stop hanging with her as "friends" because when she gets a boyfriend this is going to feel painful for you - imagine you're with her enjoying a pleasant chat and her BF calls her on the phone. The other thing you can do is be straight forward with her - ask her out and simply tell her the things you said here - that you're friends, but you like her and want to be something more than friends with her and if she disagree you better stop seeing each other. Thus you will get things clear and you wont be troubled by doubts about how she feels about you and if this is really going nowhere. Don't worry about her reaction - girls always like it when someone tells them they have feelings for them. What Im saying is you have to do something rather than just sit there and torture yourself.
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