09-18-2013, 12:20 PM
Hi Elena,
I don't have many friends, either. Facebook friends that I mostly don't see. I like the people I work with but, basically, I think I'm quite a difficult person to befriend. Maybe you are the same way? I am very unique in my general interests to the point where I don't even know where I fit in... most of the people I tend to befriend are punk rock oriented people, but even though I like that music, I'm a bit too old to be fanatical about it. I like Grateful Dead and jazz guitar plus all sorts of adult contemporary rock / girly rock my wife introduces me to... also, I am pretty seriously into music, but sometimes I'm just not. And those times tend to be when others want to talk about it. I don't particularly like deadheads or punkers and I don't know any jazz guitar fans (but if I did, I'm not sure how much of a conversation there'd be about jazz guitar; I'd probably get bored).
Lately, I love talking about the shows I am watching and I have always been into mystical, supernatural topics. But, even if I click with someone who is totally into the same stuff as me at the same time, there isn't much to talk about. I think I am just more into my own thing than most other people. I do like hanging out with other people, but I tend to get bored after a while and want to go home and do something I am interested in.
If you're like me in this way, then I think just get used to not having many friends. It's not really a big deal, is it? What would we do with a bunch of friends? Talk over each other in a big gaggle?
I live in NYC which may be where you live as well and I think it is an easy city to get lost in. People can be nice and easy to make friends, but they can also disappear from your life pretty easily simply by moving to a different borough or a thousand other things. I think in the city, you just have to make friends with whoever you find yourself surrounded by.
You can also go to Meetups about topics you're interested in... which is what I'm going to start doing.
I don't have many friends, either. Facebook friends that I mostly don't see. I like the people I work with but, basically, I think I'm quite a difficult person to befriend. Maybe you are the same way? I am very unique in my general interests to the point where I don't even know where I fit in... most of the people I tend to befriend are punk rock oriented people, but even though I like that music, I'm a bit too old to be fanatical about it. I like Grateful Dead and jazz guitar plus all sorts of adult contemporary rock / girly rock my wife introduces me to... also, I am pretty seriously into music, but sometimes I'm just not. And those times tend to be when others want to talk about it. I don't particularly like deadheads or punkers and I don't know any jazz guitar fans (but if I did, I'm not sure how much of a conversation there'd be about jazz guitar; I'd probably get bored).
Lately, I love talking about the shows I am watching and I have always been into mystical, supernatural topics. But, even if I click with someone who is totally into the same stuff as me at the same time, there isn't much to talk about. I think I am just more into my own thing than most other people. I do like hanging out with other people, but I tend to get bored after a while and want to go home and do something I am interested in.
If you're like me in this way, then I think just get used to not having many friends. It's not really a big deal, is it? What would we do with a bunch of friends? Talk over each other in a big gaggle?
I live in NYC which may be where you live as well and I think it is an easy city to get lost in. People can be nice and easy to make friends, but they can also disappear from your life pretty easily simply by moving to a different borough or a thousand other things. I think in the city, you just have to make friends with whoever you find yourself surrounded by.
You can also go to Meetups about topics you're interested in... which is what I'm going to start doing.