09-02-2013, 05:00 PM
Hi Brian.
I don't think things are as bad as they feel for you right now. Of course, that's easy to say and maybe even easy to hear, but rarely is that easy to accept. I think you should break things down and deal with them one at a time.
First, your breakup. The funny thing about breakups is that everyone goes through them but when we do we feel like nobody understands what we're going through. When people talk about it, we get the sensation of "Yeah, I understand you've gone through this but this is different." It's really not. Everything from thinking about TV shows you used to watch together to jokes you told one another can be heart wrenching. All of the plans you had for the future were suddenly changed. That's a very hard thing to adjust to.
One good sign is that you're talking about the difficulty of meeting new people and dating. That shows that at least a small part of you has gotten over the pain of the past and is ready to move on.
As far as the stupid things you have done... welcome to the club dude. A guilty conscience and negative emotions are powerful in that they can initiate positive changes in our lives. Yes, driving while intoxicated is incredibly careless and stupid. BUT... you got pulled over. Thankfully you didn't kill yourself or anyone else.
Regardless of any stupid party mistakes, it sounds to me like you still have a promising future. You've already had a great job and you're only 25. Yes, you've done some stupid and bad things but you feel bad about it which is what good people do.
If you ever want to chat a bit check out my profile on the board here for my E-mail address / Twitter handle.
I don't think things are as bad as they feel for you right now. Of course, that's easy to say and maybe even easy to hear, but rarely is that easy to accept. I think you should break things down and deal with them one at a time.
First, your breakup. The funny thing about breakups is that everyone goes through them but when we do we feel like nobody understands what we're going through. When people talk about it, we get the sensation of "Yeah, I understand you've gone through this but this is different." It's really not. Everything from thinking about TV shows you used to watch together to jokes you told one another can be heart wrenching. All of the plans you had for the future were suddenly changed. That's a very hard thing to adjust to.
One good sign is that you're talking about the difficulty of meeting new people and dating. That shows that at least a small part of you has gotten over the pain of the past and is ready to move on.
As far as the stupid things you have done... welcome to the club dude. A guilty conscience and negative emotions are powerful in that they can initiate positive changes in our lives. Yes, driving while intoxicated is incredibly careless and stupid. BUT... you got pulled over. Thankfully you didn't kill yourself or anyone else.
Regardless of any stupid party mistakes, it sounds to me like you still have a promising future. You've already had a great job and you're only 25. Yes, you've done some stupid and bad things but you feel bad about it which is what good people do.
If you ever want to chat a bit check out my profile on the board here for my E-mail address / Twitter handle.