08-08-2013, 01:30 AM
(08-04-2013, 08:17 PM)elena r Wrote: I'm in my late 20s and I've never really had any friends that stayed with me as I grew up. I had friends in high school and college, but I've grown apart from all of them/ none really seemed to want to keep in touch. I have a few acquaintances which I keep in touch with a text/ phone call every few months. However, it's gets so lonely to not have anyone to talk to and actually want to be close friends with you. I've been feeling more depressed and lonely, especially when I hear people talk about hanging out with their friends. I have a boyfriend who I've been with for a while, but the need to have a close friend, even one gnaws at me sometimes.
My birthday passed about a month ago and it felt so depressing having no one except my bf and sister greet me happy birthday. I felt so alone that I rented a hotel to be on my own hoping a nice room in nyc would distract me. My bf wanted to take me out but I told him I just wanted alone time. Has anyone felt this way/ in the same current situation? It's so hard to find people to be friends with.
have you been tested for depression? A lot of people experience slight depression after graduating from high school, for reasons you just described. From there it usually gets worse assuming they don't interact with any of their peers. Don't let lonely-ness bring you down OP. The truth is, it's extremely easy to over come with the right attitude.
Think of it like this: There are billions of people in this world, statistically speaking there are millions just like you... In terms of your interests and personality anyway. By that logic, making friends is actually easy assuming you're yourself and you're not over thinking everything. My suggestion would be to go out with your BF and a close friend, and tell her to bring some friends along. Odds are you'll like one of them and expand your network from there.