Maybe someone with experience can help me out here. Gonna number it to make it easier to read.
1. Girlfriend broke up with me (her reason was we argued too much)
2. She said right after she still loves me, but just wanted the arguing to stop.
3. The arguing was because she cheated on me very early on in the relationship (first months)
4. Took her 2 months to tell me. Argued about for months after, I lost my trust in her, and started to become a bit controlling, but never actually forced her to not see anyone...
5. A couple weeks after we break up, she comes up to me, crying, saying she doesn't know what to do.
6. She loves me, but one of her best friends for 5 years just told her he loved her.
7. I told her to make up her mind and choose. Took her a week.
8. She was crying when she told me, she said she still loves me, but is doing this to see if she can be faithful. She was a cheater, but is working hard to change her life, and I've seen results.
9. She said she feels terrible for doing it to me, that she does want to be with me, and that she feels different about me.
10. She told me she chose the other guy, after keeping me hanging for a week.
-----Gets interesting now...-----
1. She still is telling me she loves me. Still saying she wants to be with me, still saying she's just giving him a chance because she wants to prove she's worth me.
2. They've been going out for a month.
3. I know how and why she cheated before with others.
4. She's promised me to stay away from any type of sexual things with her current.
5. I have proof that she's keeping that promise.
6. She still wears the promise ring I bought her, and I asked for proof.
7. Proof was taking two separate pictures of her hand, one with and one without the ring. Tan line is appropriate and same size and everything, and I didn't tell her why I was asking.
8. Promise ring has our names engraved.
9. She only takes it off when she's around her current.
10. My birthday is in a month, and she's coming down to see me, and says she doesn't care what her boyfriend says.
11. I'm willing to do everything I have to make it work again...
12. I've promised to stop arguing, and to let her past go if she gives me the chance. I can and will go through with it, just to get her back.
13. I will not get involved with her current boyfriend, so that's out of the question.
14. Help/Discuss below
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What do I do? Who has experience in this issue? I love this girl, I really do. I want to keep hanging on a hope, but I'm also becoming more and more angry the longer it goes on. I feel like I am being used sometimes, and she can tell when I get mad when we talk, I have to water it down so much to even tell her. I don't want to hurt her, or make her mad, or lose any chance I have.
She has said that I am free to do whatever I want with whatever girl I want, but I can't do that. It would get my mind off of everything, yes, but I love her and I feel bad for even thinking it. Is her saying that just a test?
Sorry for language, but what the **** do I do? My heart says go go go! But my mind says run run run!
I've never had these strong feelings before, almost 21 (still young I know), but I don't want her to be the one that years from now I still want her back.
Help?
1. Girlfriend broke up with me (her reason was we argued too much)
2. She said right after she still loves me, but just wanted the arguing to stop.
3. The arguing was because she cheated on me very early on in the relationship (first months)
4. Took her 2 months to tell me. Argued about for months after, I lost my trust in her, and started to become a bit controlling, but never actually forced her to not see anyone...
5. A couple weeks after we break up, she comes up to me, crying, saying she doesn't know what to do.
6. She loves me, but one of her best friends for 5 years just told her he loved her.
7. I told her to make up her mind and choose. Took her a week.
8. She was crying when she told me, she said she still loves me, but is doing this to see if she can be faithful. She was a cheater, but is working hard to change her life, and I've seen results.
9. She said she feels terrible for doing it to me, that she does want to be with me, and that she feels different about me.
10. She told me she chose the other guy, after keeping me hanging for a week.
-----Gets interesting now...-----
1. She still is telling me she loves me. Still saying she wants to be with me, still saying she's just giving him a chance because she wants to prove she's worth me.
2. They've been going out for a month.
3. I know how and why she cheated before with others.
4. She's promised me to stay away from any type of sexual things with her current.
5. I have proof that she's keeping that promise.
6. She still wears the promise ring I bought her, and I asked for proof.
7. Proof was taking two separate pictures of her hand, one with and one without the ring. Tan line is appropriate and same size and everything, and I didn't tell her why I was asking.
8. Promise ring has our names engraved.
9. She only takes it off when she's around her current.
10. My birthday is in a month, and she's coming down to see me, and says she doesn't care what her boyfriend says.
11. I'm willing to do everything I have to make it work again...
12. I've promised to stop arguing, and to let her past go if she gives me the chance. I can and will go through with it, just to get her back.
13. I will not get involved with her current boyfriend, so that's out of the question.
14. Help/Discuss below
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What do I do? Who has experience in this issue? I love this girl, I really do. I want to keep hanging on a hope, but I'm also becoming more and more angry the longer it goes on. I feel like I am being used sometimes, and she can tell when I get mad when we talk, I have to water it down so much to even tell her. I don't want to hurt her, or make her mad, or lose any chance I have.
She has said that I am free to do whatever I want with whatever girl I want, but I can't do that. It would get my mind off of everything, yes, but I love her and I feel bad for even thinking it. Is her saying that just a test?
Sorry for language, but what the **** do I do? My heart says go go go! But my mind says run run run!
I've never had these strong feelings before, almost 21 (still young I know), but I don't want her to be the one that years from now I still want her back.
Help?
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