03-28-2012, 06:55 PM
My grandmother had cancer and recently died a difficult and gruesome death (they believe a tumor in her lung burst blood vessle in her lungs and she drowned in her own blood), it was very traumatic for my grandfather and mother who tried to keep her alive as long as they could (she being a nurse and performing CPR) but they couldn't save her. I was also there and have felt a lot of grief but have an outlook on life that everyone does die, and we have to accept it to deal with it. but Im worried about my grandfather because his world revolved around my grandmother, he worked to keep her as happy as possible. He also lost his mother and son this last year, and is blaming himself. I'm trying as hard to comfort him but i can't even imagine to lose my closest love one. From how hes acting he seems to be transitioning back and forth between denial and blaming himself for not being able to help her. Please give me advice because all I can think to do is hug him and try to keep him from being lonley.