01-30-2012, 07:12 PM
Basically I'm seeking advice, input and opinions on this.
Any help would be great.
I was friends with this girl for about 3 years. At one point I was actually sexually attracted to her. After being close friends with her for about 2 years, I made my feelings clear to her. I didn't get a clear response from her so i just left it alone. A year after that I decided that I could not continue being friends with her for a few reasons. She treated me like her average female friend and would want to stay on the phone for hours and gossiping about her other friends. She would keep referring to me as her best friend while I did not consider her that way. I also still had emotional feelings for her so I felt like it was interfering with my sex life. Every time I would get intimate with any woman, I would think of this female friend of mine. So I made a decision to cut our friendship. When I did, I also told her that she treats me like a female friend and that I'm tiered of listening to all the gossip and drama.
Its been a year now since we last talked. She decided to reach out to me through my family. She contacted a family member and asked if there is any way I would talk to her again and that she misses her best friend.
At this point I'm lost. I thought this was all behind me now and now she is trying to reach out to me.
Should I try to rebuild our friendship?
All my friends are telling me that she likes me and that its taking her a long time to realize it.
I think that she gets off to stringing me along.
Why is she trying to contact me?
The thing is we did have a great time hanging out and just doing dumb stuff and she would give me advise here and there. But at the same time she would never allow me to try and hook up with any of her friends.
I'm just so confused and have a million things going through my mind at this point.
As I said any help would be great.
Additional Info:
There has never been anything between us other than hugs and a kiss on the cheek.
I'm 27 and she is 23.
We are both heterosexual.
Thank you.
Any help would be great.
I was friends with this girl for about 3 years. At one point I was actually sexually attracted to her. After being close friends with her for about 2 years, I made my feelings clear to her. I didn't get a clear response from her so i just left it alone. A year after that I decided that I could not continue being friends with her for a few reasons. She treated me like her average female friend and would want to stay on the phone for hours and gossiping about her other friends. She would keep referring to me as her best friend while I did not consider her that way. I also still had emotional feelings for her so I felt like it was interfering with my sex life. Every time I would get intimate with any woman, I would think of this female friend of mine. So I made a decision to cut our friendship. When I did, I also told her that she treats me like a female friend and that I'm tiered of listening to all the gossip and drama.
Its been a year now since we last talked. She decided to reach out to me through my family. She contacted a family member and asked if there is any way I would talk to her again and that she misses her best friend.
At this point I'm lost. I thought this was all behind me now and now she is trying to reach out to me.
Should I try to rebuild our friendship?
All my friends are telling me that she likes me and that its taking her a long time to realize it.
I think that she gets off to stringing me along.
Why is she trying to contact me?
The thing is we did have a great time hanging out and just doing dumb stuff and she would give me advise here and there. But at the same time she would never allow me to try and hook up with any of her friends.
I'm just so confused and have a million things going through my mind at this point.
As I said any help would be great.
Additional Info:
There has never been anything between us other than hugs and a kiss on the cheek.
I'm 27 and she is 23.
We are both heterosexual.
Thank you.