(12-31-2011, 12:22 AM)Juicy Booty Wrote: Trust me, I would love more than anything to date her again, she was the most perfect girl I have ever met. But I do not think it will ever happen again, so I feel I need to move on.
(12-30-2011, 11:49 PM)AceInfinity Wrote: Some people pose the question like this to hope and pray that others suggest what you're already thinking and have already decided whether you realize it or not individually. It's just reassurance for what you may think you know you already want to do. I would agree with King's last statement as well. It seems like you don't want to move on, but you're looking to see a post that agrees with what you want to read as a reply. Perfectly identified as human nature for me, so it's common.I know I want to have her back, and I have already made up my mind about that. But I am just looking for some support on what I should do, I still think about her all the time, even though I think it will never happen again.
If's like stealing from the cookie jar, you ask yourself if you should or not, but in reality, you're probably going to do it anyway, as you've already made up your mind. You just need an excuse for doing so.
If you don't want to move on, I don't know what to say, it's a tough subject. But if you just want out of the way you're currently feeling, then you need to distance yourself from her, and hang out with some friends more often. Unfortunately you're hanging out with another girl, and it's reminding your subconscious about how good it felt to be around a girl that you can connect with emotionally (as a friend of course) but being that it's so soon after a break up (which is what I assume here) you want to relate it to the higher sense of feeling wanted on a more intimate/close level.
Tough to let go of something that you cherish, and that goes for most everything.
If I stopped hanging out with the new girl I guess I would stop feeling this way. What should I do? I would not talk to her anymore, But She is one of my best friends :/
Okay, forget the new girl. We're pursuing the old girl now. :p I think we all agree that you'd rather be with OG (old girl) rather than NG (new girl), right?
Let me ask you this? Do you think there's a chance that she still has any feelings for you? I'm the perfect example in this situation. My ex-girlfriend and I have dated 3 times in total. Everyone (my friends and her friends said we were stupid), but we had a good run.
Basically, the first time we dated, we broke up like everyone else. Then, one day several months later, we started talking again and decided we'd try it again. Turns out that not only I had feelings for her, but she was willing to try it again.
We rinsed, washed, and repeated that process one more time. Now, having broken up for the third and final time, I no longer have any feelings for her. This is the stage you need to reach. You can't get here unless you try it again, OR figure out some easier way to get over her.
Often, people don't get over something unless it was their decision. Sounds to me like she dumped you - meaning it was not your decision. You weren't done with her. I think you need to find that closure and try again mate.