help with a girl

[Facade]

Sorry for reviving this old thread but i just wanted to update this :

So in short , we spent a lot of time togheter , getting closer , and when i really thought she's getting more in to me , i just found out on her FB that she got in a relationship with someone , that really broke me down , and i was so pissed off . In that day , she texted me and said i made a really big mistake , at that time i didn't know what was she talking about , and now i ignored her the last few days , even though she tried to start a conversation . I talked to her best friend and she said that X(my "crush") is like from another planet , just try and not care anymore , she's stupid , something like that .
Now i really want to get over it but i dont know how , i am seeing her every day and its very hard not to remember that feeling .... i need some advices , i really love this girl ... too bad i can't have her .

All I can say is, you need to 'friend zone' her. I know this may seem really hard to do, but it's possible. For me, whenever I get that feeling (and I've been experiencing mixed feelings before) I just rethink it from a different perspective. Instead of thinking of her as that awesome person and whatnot, just think of her as a really good friend. I really don't know how to explain it with a bunch of detail on how you can just change your mindset, that's mainly on your own; but I will say that you do need to stay with her as a friend. If it ever grows back up to that point, then she'll probably want you enough to ask you 'flat out'.

What I'm getting right now from what she's doing, she's probably dependent on people. You need to be a positive influence on her and get her more confidence. Love is just like a building:

Friendship/trust = Floor/Foundation
Progression = Walls
'Love' = ceiling
Sex = Furniture (And no, I'm not someone obsessed with that, but that's what I think of it as. Not near as important as the other things)

So you need to make sure to be there for her, because it seems that she's started leaning on you and looks to you to ease her stress. If you leave, then she'll probably end up going down a bad road, and that happened to a friend of mine. It's one of the worst mistakes you can ever make in your lifetime, and you'll probably feel really guilty about it. Stay casual and be extremely supportive. Talk more about her problems and get her to open up, so then she can rebuild her confidence and hopefully get passed that small stage of depression.