09-05-2011, 04:03 PM
(This post was last modified: 09-05-2011, 04:10 PM by AceInfinity.)
Tough say, you do know that it will be hard at first for her to think about ditching everyone she knew to try and make friends somewhere else all over again. But if you keep her with the other drug using friends of hers then she may become more distant from you because of how dysfunctional your relationship with her is. I would say it's better to move her away from the drug environment, but do NOT resent her for being mad at you at first. Come to the understanding that it's a big thing for them to be away from the people that she bonded a friendship with up until now.
The typical thought that she'll get from it is that you're "trying to ruin her life" no matter how much you see it as "trying to make her life better". It will be tough for you, and her, but if you want a standing chance I would say it's the best option you have. Try to make change on top of just moving her away though. Show her that you still care for her and appreciate her in your life, no matter how difficult it is at first. If you give up on her, she'll give up on you, and ultimately it will crush your relationship with her either way. The one thing that is absolutely the worst outcome, so don't let it happen. She's what you have, don't let go of that.
Here's some facts for you, I would say on average, and depending on the community you live in, around 40-60% of kids, from junior high school and high school at least try drugs once in their life. Cigarettes or worse. Peer pressure and self image are everything in those adolescent stages of a kids life. You can't think anything less of her for being an average, but by the time she's got her life straightened out (which is your goal I hope), looking back she will understand what you did for her (hopefully). At such an early age you can't expect her to understand why you do what you do for her, it's common for people her age to not get it at all. They can think it, but they will probably never have a true understanding of what it is parent's try to do.
The typical thought that she'll get from it is that you're "trying to ruin her life" no matter how much you see it as "trying to make her life better". It will be tough for you, and her, but if you want a standing chance I would say it's the best option you have. Try to make change on top of just moving her away though. Show her that you still care for her and appreciate her in your life, no matter how difficult it is at first. If you give up on her, she'll give up on you, and ultimately it will crush your relationship with her either way. The one thing that is absolutely the worst outcome, so don't let it happen. She's what you have, don't let go of that.
Here's some facts for you, I would say on average, and depending on the community you live in, around 40-60% of kids, from junior high school and high school at least try drugs once in their life. Cigarettes or worse. Peer pressure and self image are everything in those adolescent stages of a kids life. You can't think anything less of her for being an average, but by the time she's got her life straightened out (which is your goal I hope), looking back she will understand what you did for her (hopefully). At such an early age you can't expect her to understand why you do what you do for her, it's common for people her age to not get it at all. They can think it, but they will probably never have a true understanding of what it is parent's try to do.