08-21-2011, 03:54 AM
I personally don't see the point in stating what normal is, and that may help the original poster define his own values. Of course you have to go by the assumed norm in society otherwise you would just be out of it, and you wouldn't fit in with the rest of society, but that seems to be a corrupt system because it doesn't allow for people to have their own true sense of personal morals and values if other's can't be accepting of them or at least understanding. Unless it's some kind of act that goes against her personal beliefs and attacks her morals directly, I don't see why it would be considered wrong in her eyes. Other than she may just be influenced by something other than her own ability to think of her own values and ideas, (usually family or friends have this kind of influence).
It's the same thing for kids growing up and their parent's telling them that they have to be engineers to succeed. Maybe it's true, maybe it isn't, because engineers make a bit of money. But then you take a step back to look at it in perspective once more; "What is success?". Do you need money to be successful? It differs from person to person, but you didn't necessarily get to choose your own values and beliefs, they were just indoctrinated into you because you believed that it was the "norm" in society to get a good job otherwise you aren't successful.
It's the same thing for kids growing up and their parent's telling them that they have to be engineers to succeed. Maybe it's true, maybe it isn't, because engineers make a bit of money. But then you take a step back to look at it in perspective once more; "What is success?". Do you need money to be successful? It differs from person to person, but you didn't necessarily get to choose your own values and beliefs, they were just indoctrinated into you because you believed that it was the "norm" in society to get a good job otherwise you aren't successful.