07-18-2011, 05:34 AM
Thanks for telling me how I SHOULD feel - thats great listening (note my sarcasm!).
I don't agree with you on this point. I'm angry b/c she tried to hold me emotionally hostage by refusing to get help, and refusing to allow me to bring help to her, while in the MIDDLE of the attempt!! Her small kids were in the house, and she was trying to have them HELP her off herself!!
You bet I'm angry! Downright peeved!
I came here because sadly, there is no support available for someone who is ticked at a someone for attempting suicide. There is help available for those in crisis, and help for those who have to support them (who want to remain friends with the suicidal person), and help for those who have actually experienced a death by suicide (of a loved one). But there doesn't seem to be anywhere for a person who no longer wants to associate herself with someone who has attempted it! There is no one (it seems) who wants to talk about how crappy it feels to be on the other end of that crisis, and trying to keep a person safe!).
If you've never been on THAT side of the fence, and in the awful position of needing to call 911 in the middle of someone's attempt... then I don't think its fair for you (or anyone) to tell me how I OUGHT to feel!!
I'll never trust her again! There is NO way I'd bring my kids anywhere near her (I would never trust her not to hold them hostage as she essentially did with her own kids - if not physically, at least emotionally!).
Clearly, she needs more help than I can (or am willing!) to give at this point!! And since I know in my heart that I no longer want this friendship -- I think it would be worse to lie and mislead her, and make her think I'm still "there" for her when I'm so not -- don't you think?
I don't agree with you on this point. I'm angry b/c she tried to hold me emotionally hostage by refusing to get help, and refusing to allow me to bring help to her, while in the MIDDLE of the attempt!! Her small kids were in the house, and she was trying to have them HELP her off herself!!
You bet I'm angry! Downright peeved!
I came here because sadly, there is no support available for someone who is ticked at a someone for attempting suicide. There is help available for those in crisis, and help for those who have to support them (who want to remain friends with the suicidal person), and help for those who have actually experienced a death by suicide (of a loved one). But there doesn't seem to be anywhere for a person who no longer wants to associate herself with someone who has attempted it! There is no one (it seems) who wants to talk about how crappy it feels to be on the other end of that crisis, and trying to keep a person safe!).
If you've never been on THAT side of the fence, and in the awful position of needing to call 911 in the middle of someone's attempt... then I don't think its fair for you (or anyone) to tell me how I OUGHT to feel!!
I'll never trust her again! There is NO way I'd bring my kids anywhere near her (I would never trust her not to hold them hostage as she essentially did with her own kids - if not physically, at least emotionally!).
Clearly, she needs more help than I can (or am willing!) to give at this point!! And since I know in my heart that I no longer want this friendship -- I think it would be worse to lie and mislead her, and make her think I'm still "there" for her when I'm so not -- don't you think?