06-10-2011, 05:12 PM
(This post was last modified: 06-11-2011, 10:57 PM by Brandenx781.)
If you're planning to move to Oregon, then where would you stay? I mean, I don't know if you can still transfer into foster care at 19, but it's kinda worth a shot.
I think that you guys should talk about the problem. You guys are old enough to handle your own situations. Both of you are still acting on the childish side considering that you guys are actually physically throwing stuff and fighting with each other. Is it because you told your mom about the random guy, and that is why she got mad?
Physically fighting with a sibling blood related or not, is a very awful thing to do, especially when it is a serious fight. If you are still able to live there I think that you should start to resolve your conflicts with your sister before something else starts to happen, which I don't know if anything else can start. It doesn't matter what happened. This should had turned into an adult situation, without having a stupid argument over something. If you couldn't stop her from throwing stuff at you then just walk away from it. Just because of the fight, look where it's getting you now. It's getting you finally kicked out of the house and you don't even know where you're going to go to stay.
If you wanted to get her to calm down, I think a hug would had been a good idea. Well not really since she'll just run. But I think that walking away from the situation and then letting the both of you calm down first would had been the better idea, and when you guys were both calmed and cooled down, then you guys could sit together in a room and just talk about the situation at hand. And maybe you guys would had resolved any conflict or problem you had, and you wouldn't had to move out because of a simple lie that made your mom scared about everything.
I think that this was the stupidest reason why she would tell your mom that you were physically abusing her over this. She's 18, and I don't get why she's acting so childish around her age right now. Maybe because she is spoiled or something? Well I'm not sure. But you could go and tell her that you honestly didn't mean to get her in trouble. Just say that you didn't know who he was and you kinda got over protective so you called your mom to identify who he was. Or if you wanted to avoid this situation, you could had asked your sister yourself who he was. But still, this is a very stupid argument because you didn't even mean to get her in trouble. You know that, but maybe she doesn't know that and she probably thought that you were doing this on purpose to get her in trouble.
Even with your mom, you should sit down and talk to your mom about this situation. You should explain to her that everything didn't mean to happen, and that you did not physically abuse your sister. If you did abuse her however, then you would be seeing bruises, marks, or even cuts all over her body. And hope that she doesn't. Explain everything to her and why she said that you were abusing her. Well the fact that you told on the random guy to your mother. And maybe she'll change her mind and her opinion about adopting you and letting you stay at the house. She may not be important to you but she does have a home.
If you can, you should ask your mother about staying in the house until you find a permanent or supplementary place to stay and then after you had found a place to stay, then you can move out. But do this after you explained the whole situation to her because she probably does not believe anything you say to her and she'll always be on the sister's side. Just make sure that you are serious about everything and you do make sure she gets the point of why everything started in the first place. You're 19 now, so you better start finding somewhere to stay.
I think it is a great idea to find a place to reside in among your friends. Just ask around and if you can stay with a friend for the time being then stay. All you need is a roof ontop of your head to sleep. If their parents say no which they will obviously, then just say that you'll help them clean around the house, and help them do stuff, and you'll be paying for your own food and supplies needed. All you need is to find a place to sleep, because it's a pretty scary thing where you have nowhere to sleep except in nature. I don't know if you can even turn to the police since you're 19. I'm just spitting out ideas, since I've never been in the same situation as you, but I'm trying to help. Just try to persuade the parents, and you won't disturb anyone as much. Make sure you look presentable to the parents, because you know what they say. First impressions are always lasting impressions. So make sure you have a good look and a good presentation of why they should let you in the house and live there until you find another home to stay in.
It's to much money to go to another different state, well depending where you live and what transportation you use. I think all the money that you have obtained by donators should go to all the funds of food and supplies that you would even need in your life in order to survive the world. Don't move into another state until you find a steady job, which have a steady amount of pay.
GoodLuck!
- Brandenx781
Quote:My sister, got into a fight 4 days ago. She ended up slapping, hitting, kicking, and hitting/throwing a binder at me.
I think that you guys should talk about the problem. You guys are old enough to handle your own situations. Both of you are still acting on the childish side considering that you guys are actually physically throwing stuff and fighting with each other. Is it because you told your mom about the random guy, and that is why she got mad?
Physically fighting with a sibling blood related or not, is a very awful thing to do, especially when it is a serious fight. If you are still able to live there I think that you should start to resolve your conflicts with your sister before something else starts to happen, which I don't know if anything else can start. It doesn't matter what happened. This should had turned into an adult situation, without having a stupid argument over something. If you couldn't stop her from throwing stuff at you then just walk away from it. Just because of the fight, look where it's getting you now. It's getting you finally kicked out of the house and you don't even know where you're going to go to stay.
If you wanted to get her to calm down, I think a hug would had been a good idea. Well not really since she'll just run. But I think that walking away from the situation and then letting the both of you calm down first would had been the better idea, and when you guys were both calmed and cooled down, then you guys could sit together in a room and just talk about the situation at hand. And maybe you guys would had resolved any conflict or problem you had, and you wouldn't had to move out because of a simple lie that made your mom scared about everything.
Quote:She said this because I had told my mom that she had brought some random guy over that I didn't even know and asked her if she knew the guy herself
I think that this was the stupidest reason why she would tell your mom that you were physically abusing her over this. She's 18, and I don't get why she's acting so childish around her age right now. Maybe because she is spoiled or something? Well I'm not sure. But you could go and tell her that you honestly didn't mean to get her in trouble. Just say that you didn't know who he was and you kinda got over protective so you called your mom to identify who he was. Or if you wanted to avoid this situation, you could had asked your sister yourself who he was. But still, this is a very stupid argument because you didn't even mean to get her in trouble. You know that, but maybe she doesn't know that and she probably thought that you were doing this on purpose to get her in trouble.
Quote:My mom didn't pick up the phone after my sister got off with her. Never said any words that night to me except "never hit a woman, I am disgusted."
Even with your mom, you should sit down and talk to your mom about this situation. You should explain to her that everything didn't mean to happen, and that you did not physically abuse your sister. If you did abuse her however, then you would be seeing bruises, marks, or even cuts all over her body. And hope that she doesn't. Explain everything to her and why she said that you were abusing her. Well the fact that you told on the random guy to your mother. And maybe she'll change her mind and her opinion about adopting you and letting you stay at the house. She may not be important to you but she does have a home.
If you can, you should ask your mother about staying in the house until you find a permanent or supplementary place to stay and then after you had found a place to stay, then you can move out. But do this after you explained the whole situation to her because she probably does not believe anything you say to her and she'll always be on the sister's side. Just make sure that you are serious about everything and you do make sure she gets the point of why everything started in the first place. You're 19 now, so you better start finding somewhere to stay.
Quote:So now I have been trying to find places among friends.
I think it is a great idea to find a place to reside in among your friends. Just ask around and if you can stay with a friend for the time being then stay. All you need is a roof ontop of your head to sleep. If their parents say no which they will obviously, then just say that you'll help them clean around the house, and help them do stuff, and you'll be paying for your own food and supplies needed. All you need is to find a place to sleep, because it's a pretty scary thing where you have nowhere to sleep except in nature. I don't know if you can even turn to the police since you're 19. I'm just spitting out ideas, since I've never been in the same situation as you, but I'm trying to help. Just try to persuade the parents, and you won't disturb anyone as much. Make sure you look presentable to the parents, because you know what they say. First impressions are always lasting impressions. So make sure you have a good look and a good presentation of why they should let you in the house and live there until you find another home to stay in.
Quote:Yes, I had planned on moving to Oregon
It's to much money to go to another different state, well depending where you live and what transportation you use. I think all the money that you have obtained by donators should go to all the funds of food and supplies that you would even need in your life in order to survive the world. Don't move into another state until you find a steady job, which have a steady amount of pay.
GoodLuck!
- Brandenx781
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