04-02-2011, 07:06 AM
Sorry to say this Monique, but I think he is probably playing the exact same game with other women as you read this now. Don't think he thinks you're special in any way, if he has indicated this, it's an illusion he created to help get him what he wants. These men are skilled at deceiving women and the more time you give to him, the more skilled he will become as he learns new tricks - and the harder it is then for women like you to extricate themselves from. For your own sake, give him up, and move on. It will hurt you even more in the end if you allow yourself to be subjected to his hurtful behaviour any more. He will hurt you again because you always hope and want to believe better of him even though you know this is how he is. This is one of your weaknesses that comes from strong qualities you possess as a person, unlike him and which he exploits knowingly, and something you need to work on for yourself. In a way, you are deceiving yourself that he's not that bad, that he might somehow change, or he might start to value you more. The only way he might change is if you and other women learn to let these men go their separate ways and not give in to their games. While he's got you interested at any level, he's 'winning' his game, and he therefore doesn't have to change. Take the lessons you have already learned and save yourself that extra pain. Believe me, it is a truly horrible place to be when the bigger truth unravels before you at a later date. Any contact you have with him, you are still investing in him emotionally, always hoping. I know it's hard, but you really need to break that now. Maybe at a later date, you two will meet again and he'll prove his worth as a reformed character but for now, let him go, move on and make a good life for yourself. There are much better men out there, who will not focus on sex at the outset. Relationships have to be about so much more, and this guy clearly doesn't appreciate this fact, and clearly isn't interested in a proper relationship. He has made it abundantly clear that the only thing that interests him is sex, all the better with someone he finds attractive. He's not offering any kind of committment to you, despite what he says. He doesn't want to be responsible and treat you fairly. He can pay a prostitute for this, so why give it to him for free? Don't let him drag you down, when you have so much more going for yourself. You sound like a really lovely woman with a lot of love to give. As soon as you give him up, I can assure you he won't care, and he'll looking for the next women without looking back. You don't mean that much to him really, if you did, he'd be treating you with a lot more respect. So don't be rewarding him for it! Sorry to go on, it's hard to see people do this to themselves. Just be cruel to be kind to yourself if you can, it's a lot easier in the long run that way. All the best.