04-02-2011, 12:05 AM
(This post was last modified: 04-02-2011, 12:14 AM by monique12345.)
thanks. i regret to think you all are right. i never always get why people manipulate as i like it straight and give it straight. it is wrong to mislead people to get selfishly what you want without giving ther other person full freedom to choose if it is right for them. This guy has been manipulative by coming across genuine in stating he wants sex and finds me attractive, loves to talk to me and challanges, then makes me feel bad for questioning his intentions as one one hand he says sex first and see if it evolves to a relationship and then on the other hand that he has no time for r'ship. On top of it, then saying he is not special for me and i corrected him by saying i am not for him as it is for me to decide what i think. What is amazing is that we are connected somehow and i guess i grew to like him thinking only that he is sincere. I trust him in a very strange way but he is seems emotionally unstable or he was really playing with my mind and emotions and kind nature. This bit, makes me feel sick everyone. Ardity, sexual contact is important and nothing wrong with it, i agree with you that if that is all that is wanted then it is good to know that. Maybe you all can see that he was even misleading me and I thought there is more to him. he has consumed my time and energy. i miss him alot but unsure what i miss anymore. Maybe i liked the attention but looking back he often made me feel cheap, sick to my stomach and always confused. Yesterday i realised he is the one confused or maybe he is just skilled and i caught him out. he probably does not care and now i ask you all, when i see him in class (mature adult class) how am i to behave? Should i be happy with everyone so he does not see me down and affected as much as i am, or should i have a talk with him to tell him after class that he has been manipulative and it is not right how he is treating woman. I already told him that he has a daughter and i believe in karma. But all these discussions we have had is on email and never in person. Thanks for the advice all. I take no offense from anyone and like it straight as you all give. This discussion has really been helping me and getting things out of my head to start solving it. I have to stop have him consume my mind and emotions. He makes me feel cheap and i am disappointed in not seeing this sooner. i have been played....
BTW, i asked him how he feels for me and he said mixed. One hand he thinks i am really wonderful, other hand crazy. he makes the situation crazy and i have been reacting and see it has been crazy as my emotions were tangled in his web. He has been having a great laugh everyone and i am feeling incredibly down, but ig uess u all can tell by this conversation. New situations, hard lesson and i get one is always wiser and stronger afterwards. Advice for now to handle the last few classes is needed. Crickey, he must be desperate to have sex if he is even willing to lie and with a crazy chick he claims i am too, while also stating he does not care if we have sex. but then saying how he is honest and no BS in not pursuing me for sex by wining and dining me to do. Even with my constant questioning of asking him to show me the respect i deserve, he stated he wants to run away as he has never had such horrible emails in all his life and yet he admits he still types to me. They were not horrible emails, but he saw them as that as i realise when i got to the truth, he was manipulating it all emotionally for me and is just skilled in doing it. No conscious when i said we would have slept with other under false pretences he was telling me and i would have been incredibly hurt by this. His response is well good we didnt then. On the other hand he states he knows he does not love me but then all his behaviours are opposite to what he would do and he has no idea of what love is. Maybe this is giving me hope again. OK, question is how to behave and whether i should speak to him in person about it? Next is, how many of u think i should give him a chance or move on and just not have any contact with him at all?
BTW, i asked him how he feels for me and he said mixed. One hand he thinks i am really wonderful, other hand crazy. he makes the situation crazy and i have been reacting and see it has been crazy as my emotions were tangled in his web. He has been having a great laugh everyone and i am feeling incredibly down, but ig uess u all can tell by this conversation. New situations, hard lesson and i get one is always wiser and stronger afterwards. Advice for now to handle the last few classes is needed. Crickey, he must be desperate to have sex if he is even willing to lie and with a crazy chick he claims i am too, while also stating he does not care if we have sex. but then saying how he is honest and no BS in not pursuing me for sex by wining and dining me to do. Even with my constant questioning of asking him to show me the respect i deserve, he stated he wants to run away as he has never had such horrible emails in all his life and yet he admits he still types to me. They were not horrible emails, but he saw them as that as i realise when i got to the truth, he was manipulating it all emotionally for me and is just skilled in doing it. No conscious when i said we would have slept with other under false pretences he was telling me and i would have been incredibly hurt by this. His response is well good we didnt then. On the other hand he states he knows he does not love me but then all his behaviours are opposite to what he would do and he has no idea of what love is. Maybe this is giving me hope again. OK, question is how to behave and whether i should speak to him in person about it? Next is, how many of u think i should give him a chance or move on and just not have any contact with him at all?