10-19-2009, 10:36 PM
Well, the problem with your ex is that she has a dependent personality, I have a friend like that also, I told her upfront that she needs to pick herself up and go, but to no avail. Most dependents are unable to change since their level of self-determination is very low along with low self-esteem. If you want to help her out of her slump, try casually talking to her from time to time in person in short instances so that her friends don't convince you that you're a bad guy.
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