03-24-2011, 05:22 PM
Thanks everyone. The need to be clearer has jumped out. So this guy is not the typical guy I look at to be honest. What caught my eye is that he constantly stares at me and tried to make eye contact. On that end his confidence shined. He was very direct and started to write that he wanted me. I got a little put of as it felt like one of you wrote that he wanted to just sleep with me, and I am not that type of girl. He seemed confident, but then I saw a very vulnerable side to him. he is more soft spoken to me infront of everyone, but alone he seems to get very shy now and feels a bit awkward. I now really like him, but it feels almost like he is damaged in some way (maybe the nurturing side in me comes out here). Now there is this very strange intense awkwardness. He still looks at me, but looks a bit sad. Finds it difficult to speak to me and tenses his whole body if I come near him. He looks like he is interested but his body language sends mixed signals. He does not contact me outside class like before. Blimey, i may have fallen for the wrong guy if he just wanted sex and now his behaviour is because his pride is bruised. As i do not want to assume and there are some very good guys out there, i thought to ask what move I should next make. I appear to be desperate now to remove the wall between us, yet he does not even bother asking how i am, is non responsive to emails and I am not sure how to read it all. He wrote that he really thinks i am nice, yet he does not drive me home like before when he was so into me. Was it just for the one reason and I look for something deeper? SHould i move on and just ignore this guy now. Sometimes he winks at me but then gets all awkward to know what to say. Is this because i caught him out. He said everything right in the beginning but he may just be a player. I do not want to go through life with what if, and therefore appreciate getting your impression and understand of all these mixed signals i am getting. He makes me out to be too full on and he has me hooked. Should i tell him that i have developed feelings for him? Maybe he stops the game or gives indication that he is interested too. I said lets be friends but there is obvious tension and I want to understand what it is to make it right. He just does not make it easy for me to ask him and I pick up strong vibes to not be able to ask him. He seems so highly strung and tensed that I fear i push him over the edge and he hates me. if i get the advice from the majority to just move on then I will. being in this situation I have a more challenging time to think logically and rationally. This guy has my head spinning and he may know it which would make me feel bad, or does he need it spelt out.