03-17-2011, 08:55 PM
I have been with a guy for 11 yrs and we have become more like roomates than anything else. This new guy comes into my life and notices me and for a long time i notice someone else. I have been trying with my partner for 4 years and it does not seem to feel any better. He is a good man but the feeling or spark seems to be just gone which we both agreed on. being loyal I have stuck it out this long but am not truely happy and am finally now admitting that without fear in admitting it to myself. I have been saying it to my partner but he is tired with his work and I am fed up with how he lets external factors affect the relationship all the time. I love to have a good time, laugh and all that. I have not had that for a long time. My partner is definately my best friend and we love each other but not in love anymore. It seems simpler to not officially do anything about it than to be physically alone in a new country I guess. I just been blown away by this new guy and like his forwardness and boldness. Most guys are too nervous to approach me and he just went for it which I found great and now want more off. But I pished him away and he has backed off now as I wanted to think things through before hurting anyone. I have no idea if this new guy is genuine, seems so, but I worry that he just wants a quick fling. But he seems to really like me for respecting my wishes which is not my wish anymore. I do like to explore it as i have not felt like this before, ever. But being inexperienced, i have no clue what my feelings are - crush or more serious than that.