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[Mous]

So I have decided not to allow myself to be manipulated. However, the truth is that I do have some feelings for this new guy. WHat it is I have no idea but to be honest to myself, I wish to understand it and slowly explore it. Question is how without ruining any potential good friendship and in the process hurt myself. I am quite a traditional person and I am blown away to be feeling like this. The feeling of my heart is aching, longing to be held by this guy and kissed. Just to be close to him and hold him and vice versa. I am not experienced to understand what this feeling is, but i know that i feel alive to feel like this. it starts to feel painful however, hence the confusion. I will not do anything stupid and be rational. I am just letting my inner most emotions out to understand them. I will take things slow to try and not hurt anyone. How can I subtly show that i like this new guy i first pushed away? I hate to ruin a friendship.

Mm, I don't really know how to help you.

I guess I don't understand your situation very well, so I'm having a hard
time thinking of what to say.

The man you've been with for 11 years, you two aren't together any more?
Is that what you mean by "Just friends"? I don't understand how you're
"just friends" and still with him.

If you ARE still with him, and you're just having a low point in your
relationship, I suggest you try to fix that relationship rather than
try to go farther with the guy you've known for 5 weeks.