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[Mous]

I see I have not made myself clear. I am not thinking of leaving anyone or being with anyone. Situation is much more complex. I am open with my partner and the reason of seeking support is to be able to think out loud to sort out my own emotons. My partner and I love each other but we have gone from being lovers to great friends. I trust him a dnam very honest with him. I do not experience the feelings I have no with anyone i meet, it just happened and maybe it is because i have longed for this feeling for a number of years. My partner and I have discussed that we seemed to have lost with each other and he thinks it is due to moving countries and so forth. however, he is also ver stressed about his work which means he never switches off. I am tired and frustrated to not be noticed and it was wonderful to be noticed after so long. I am just now being very cautious as this new guy may not be right for me, i also do not want to hurt anyone. Though I feel i have been unhappy for awhile and i am sick of it. I take the advice to go slow and see what happens. I hope my partner and i find each other again. The class finishes in 3 weeks and i hope i can stop thinking of the new guy. If not, then I have no clue what to do. All I know is when this new guy ignored me, i was incredibly hurt that my emotions consumed me. Now he wants to be friends and thinks i am really nice, i felt relieved and happy. It worries me that my emotions are so controlled my someone i hardly know, yet feel so connected too. it helps to talk it out in anycase and keep talking it out as playing it in my own mind has been driving me crazy. I long for my man to hold me like i am the only person in the room, rather than feel it to be a chore or keep asking for it. I think something is strange in doing that and I am fed up with it. I am scared of feeling this way as he has been a safety net and trustworthy one for 11 years, sticking with me through thick and thin. But I do not want to have just a best friend, but a lover too. If i dont get that then what am i supposed to do?

That's not an answer we can really give you, only *you* know what's best for you. Quite honestly, I'm going to tell you to try to rekindle that love, that's the type of person I am. If you *have* tried, and you *can't* you're going to have to figure out what to do from there. I can't really tell you what to do in that situation. What would be best for you *and* him?