Quote:Naa im out of high school... see all though school I was really heavy and never really had friends and no girl ever noticed me, they still don't now Ive lost like 115lbs but yeah... it just gets to me cause all my friends have someone and yet I don't... and it sucks even more cause im work at retail and so all day I have to see couples coming in and it just hurts even more... I mean it'd be nice to tell someone if something good happens to me instead of calling up my mom or telling her when something good happened ya know?
Don't give up on the girl! Just because she caught you staring at her doesn't mean everything is done. Go up to her with some confidence and chat her up about hell, anything that is common in every day.
Hey, I tell my mom good crap that happens all the time. Family is one part that won't let you down (usually). But I do know what you mean. It is nice.
But you need to get some confidence! Otherwise, this won't change, and you know it. You'll just be sitting in the same kind of depression you're in now. As much as I dislike the way C4V said it, you do need to change the way you think. Otherwise, things won't change.
(03-14-2011, 01:26 PM)C4Vendetta Wrote: Seriously, what's up with all the hating.
I don't like people like him who are to scared to live.
fudge man, you can give him as much tips and guides to follow as you want.
You can come up with as many metaphors and examples as you want. It will not help, at all.
You really think he'll change his behaviour because of your oh-so-sweet replies? fudge no.
What he needs is to be woken up out of his dream.
What's the real problem in his situation? Not the people around him, not his confidence, not his looks, not his resources.
It's him, it is his damn way of thinking.
He's expecting everything to come to him, just everything. And he doesn't even realise it.
Even now he's not actually trying to break the pattern. He's going on the web expecting other people to fix his problems for him.
To round this up;
None of the post in this thread will help him change his life. That's NOT how it works.
He must figure out himself what's wrong to be able to fix it. If he doesn't, he'll end up alone and miserable.
Call me harsh, call me ignorant, call me shallow, but I've been trough way more than most of you can imagine. I know what I'm talking about.
You've been through a lot hmm? I too have been through a lot. I watched as my first love betrayed me before my eyes, used me as a vent because her whole family was falling apart. Have you ever missed the person you fell in love with, even though they're standing right next to you?
For you, being an ass to you may have worked. I'm not trying to sugar coat what he needs. I do know that if I had been told the way you are telling him i would have ended up ridiculously depressed. I would have hated myself, and gotten worse with everything. You may not have needed some positive reinforcement, but you're not everyone. Don't act like your advice is the only true advice, because that's obviously not the case.
And I still don't understand how telling him he needs to stop being weak or his genes will die will give anyone the realization as to how to fix their problems.