03-14-2011, 07:55 AM
You have to understand this now: You can't fix her problems. While this hurts incredibly, it's something that you need to understand. If you try and fix her problems, you're going to end up being hurt because of it all too.
You need to just be there for her all the time. Hang out with her when you can, don't bring it up unless she wants it brought up (bring it up only when appropriate. Like if she's crying, or early on say "I will always be here for you, so when you're ready, we can always talk"). You really just need to be there as an emotional support for her.
However, you cannot allow yourself to be drained as well. How will you be able to help her if you're feeling like crap too? Don't hang out with her every waking second. It's a horrible idea. Hang out with your friends, be by yourself, allow yourself time to just do what you want to do. Coming from very difficult experience, you have to maintain your sense of self or this is not going to work.
I hope everything works out for her, as well.
You need to just be there for her all the time. Hang out with her when you can, don't bring it up unless she wants it brought up (bring it up only when appropriate. Like if she's crying, or early on say "I will always be here for you, so when you're ready, we can always talk"). You really just need to be there as an emotional support for her.
However, you cannot allow yourself to be drained as well. How will you be able to help her if you're feeling like crap too? Don't hang out with her every waking second. It's a horrible idea. Hang out with your friends, be by yourself, allow yourself time to just do what you want to do. Coming from very difficult experience, you have to maintain your sense of self or this is not going to work.
I hope everything works out for her, as well.