guide to self harm [cutting]

[Guest]

thanks guest!
can understand the points are making.

with 'attention seeking' ,this might be just a difference in understanding of the word as did mean seeking attention,but not in the old/traditional way that people see us as-people who senselessly and deliberately look for bad or good attention,the childish attention seeking type.
as a ex cutter fighting the blade at the moment,can honestly see it as seeking attention in a lot cases,but its seeking attention for a very desperate and strong reason,not some silly attention whore type reason [ugh,wish coud think of better words to put it in].
-people who do it for attention whoring reasons,may not have a solid obvious reason on the surface but beneath their mask,they will have a reason to want that attention,so they do have issues to.
think the term is largely outdated,as its always stereotyping us all as 'attention whores' with no reasons behind SH.

it is an interesting point on SH always requiring mental instability in some form,what about people who have had poor family upbringings and havent been taught well enough to cope with issues or what they feel? or perhaps reaction to parents fighting?
is it the child self harming,then who is mentaly unstable,or is it directly the upbringing?

had used cutting as a way to communicate language as well as what was feeling,and also as a sensory seeking habit which has nothing to do with other people-till finaly being given PECS [picture exchange communication system] and taught further makaton,as well as given various sensory integration equipment which has helped cut down on that side of it,its definitely not always the common reasons [eg,feelings issues] that trigger it.

Thank you for understanding what I am trying to say, I wasn't trying to call "cutters" the attention whore type, you got it spot on.

Plenty of people go through a rough time at home or just life in general and don't resort to cutting, so it really can't be blamed solely on that either, although it definitely is a big factor.

I also feel that coping mechanisms are something you learn on your own, your parents don't really teach you how to deal with that kind of stuff, they can't really be expected to, after all everyone is different.